Amy and Drew

A Prime-Time Abortion and a Broken-Hearted Father

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Last night’s episode of a popular prime-time television show, “Parenthood,” dealt with the tragedy of fathers being legally excluded from the abortion decision.

In the episode, Drew, a high school senior who is madly in love with his girlfriend, Amy, is shocked by the news that Amy has unexpectedly become pregnant. Amy’s attitude throughout the episode is one of despair and stress. Drew, in spite of being confused and overwhelmed, remains supportive and loving of Amy while simultaneously developing an unspoken affection for his child.

Drew tells Amy that he wants to support her no matter what she decides to do about the pregnancy. He repeatedly insists that he loves her enough to support their new family regardless of hardships that may come their way. However, Amy becomes like a stone wall. Lyrics in the background aptly describe her demeanor: [she is] colder than a wave in the Arctic Ocean. A baby, she believes, will destroy her life.

Besides her confused and vulnerable boyfriend, the only resource she goes to for help is the local Planned Parenthood center. During her consultation with Planned Parenthood, adoption and parenting are coldly mentioned as options, but, as in reality, the abortion-committer does not elaborate on those options.

Abortion counselors are notorious for presenting a one-sided view of the options: they have a reputation for leaving parents with the impression that abortion is their only option, and “Parenthoodcaptured this reality well. “Planned Parenthood’s mission is to pressure as many women into having an abortion as it can,” Catherine Anthony Adair, a former counselor from the business, confesses.

Kudos to the show, also, for depicting the pain felt by mothers and fathers after their children are aborted. Unlike what so many prime-time television shows try to dupe viewers into thinking, a woman does not usually walk away from her appointment with a sigh of relief and a fresh spring in her step. She goes home a broken woman, and this is exactly what happened to Amy.

Finally, the show realistically portrays a loving father’s reaction to the death of his child: Drew is crushed. The cameras fade out on the closing image of a broken-hearted young father sobbing hopelessly in his mom’s arms.

This is reality. This is what abortion looks like when all is said and done. Fathers have no legal rights in the decision to keep or abort their own children. They have no say in a mother’s choice, even though they are equally responsible for the child’s conception.

Dead children lead to broken hearts, and “Parenthood” deserves credit for telling the truth last night.

  • Ann

    Well it’s bout time a show tells how abortion REALLY does to a a couple:-(

  • Me

    While I have sympathy for the pain of the fathers in these situations, and of course for the unborn children. I do think its just another example of while sexual abstience until marriage is best. Sure, some wives abort without husband’s knowledge/consent but that simply speaks to the importance of having the “difficult” conversations before rushing into such a committement.

    Unfortuantely for men, in this day and age, if you don’t like abortion, don’t have sex with any woman unless you know she’s not pro-abortion; and even then its no fool proof guarentee.

  • https://www.facebook.com/ProLifePagans Pro Life Pagans

    There’s a double standard at work. While men are helpless to prevent their children from being aborted, they will all too often intimidate their wives or girlfriends into getting them.

    • atozmom5

      Pro Life Pagans!?!? EXCELLENT!

    • http://twitter.com/LNEnriquez Lauren Enriquez

      I acknowledge that in my article “Forgotten Fatherhood.” However, I believe that it is worth the time to give heart to those men who really love their children but are powerless over their lives. http://www.texasrighttolife.com/a/402/Forgotten-Fatherhood

    • http://twitter.com/Mark_Neilg Mark Neil

      Of course. Can’t speak of a man’s pain without including some story about how evil men are.

      • https://www.facebook.com/ProLifePagans Pro Life Pagans

        A lady named Alexandra first created our page on Facebook, but my name is Robert.

        • http://twitter.com/Mark_Neilg Mark Neil

          Relevance? Are you suggesting that, because your name is Robert, you are somehow unable to dismiss a man’s pain by turning the conversation over to the evils of men? Perhaps you think that, because you are a man, you are immune to accusations of hating other men (not an accusation I’ve made BTW)? Are you familiar with a character by the name of reverend Uncle Ruckus?

          • https://www.facebook.com/ProLifePagans Pro Life Pagans

            Not at all. I was trying to say there was a double standard at work because a woman can have an abortion without the father’s consent (or in some cases even his knowledge) while she cannot carry the pregnancy full-term without at least his knowledge. By the same token a minor can have an abortion without her parent’s knowledge, but cannot carry a child full-term without her parents’ knowledge. As a man, I am only too familiar with how helpless men are if they wish to see their children live.

          • Lauren

            I have several good friends who have gone through the pain of losing a child against their will. :(

          • http://twitter.com/Mark_Neilg Mark Neil

            “while she cannot carry the pregnancy full-term without at least his knowledge”

            That’s not true. I know of several women who didn’t tell the father she had gotten pregnant and had a kid. Then 3-4 years down the road, she files for child support, she’s been the sole parent for years ensuring she keeps sole custody, but gets a regular paycheck and often backpay.

            Sex does not mean a child. It hasn’t meant that for a LONG LONG time, if ever (there have always been prostitutes, and they managed to avoid pregnancy more often than not). A man should not be required to assume each and every sexual encounter will lead to having a child.

            And all this still doesn’t explain the “intimidation” accusation, especially the “all too often” part, which is a direct accusation that men are abusive to women “all too often”.

  • prolifemama

    I watch this show but have not yet seen this episode. I am actually upset that Amy chose abortion. I was hoping they would have an adoption storyline…but i guess if they show the truth about the effects of abortion then it could be helpful. That said, i find the show treats sex outside of marriage to be no big deal…but maybe the abortion storyline will make people think of the possible consequence of promiscuity.

    • http://twitter.com/LNEnriquez Lauren Enriquez

      I agree with you.

    • http://www.beccafrench.tumblr.com Becca French

      I really appreciate the fact that the show already established Drew and Amy’s use of contraception. It shows the reality that if you’re sexually active you can become pregnant, regardless of how “careful” or “safe” you are. There is an adoption storyline in the show with Julia and Victor and for a while it was portrayed as a good thing, but I worry that the writers wont continue that. This episode made me really excited and worried, the show has the potential to reach a lot of people with a message of life but they could so easily ruin it.

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