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CNN: Special report features hundreds of women who regret their abortions

cnn iReportTo coincide with the 40th anniversary of Roe v. Wade earlier this year, CNN asked its readers two questions: Have you had an abortion? How do you feel about it now?

CNN had a whopping 539 iReports filed in response. Hundreds of stories poured in, as women shared their choices, their reasons, their grief, and rarely, their satisfaction. One thing was made abundantly clear by CNN’s efforts: women regret their abortions. And they need to talk about them.

Women named their stories out of a deep sense of heartache:

Until we meet again

Soul-deep ache

Self-medicating did not heal my pain

What I had destroyed was not just tissue

Abortion is a forever punishment for women

I never got over it

Broken.

The pain of abortion stays with women. (Photo credit: craigCloutier on Flickr)
The pain of abortion stays with women for a lifetime. (Photo credit: craigCloutier on Flickr)

If only women would read such stories – hundreds of them – before making a choice for abortion. If only women did not have to look back in pain, regretting an unchangeable choice.

If only, instead, they could look ahead to a bright future without death because they know the facts, know the heartache, and know the grief without having to experience them firsthand.

These are the stories we must share. These are the stories we must shout from the rooftops. These are the stories that tell the truth. As one woman titled her article, “Because abortion affects everything!

Friends drive each other to the clinic and then never speak about it again. This ‘surgery’ literally changes a person’s life forever… and we are suddenly mute! …

My name is Stacy Massey and I am the President and Founding Partner of Abortion Recovery InterNational (ARIN), an international association of peer, professional and pastoral counselors helping families work through the emotional, psychological and spiritual pain of abortion.

We receive over 100 requests PER DAY from individuals and families looking for after abortion help. Over 250,000 hurting people have contacted us just in the last 5 years.

One simple, quick and legal abortion can impact 40-50 people in a lifetime.  Abortion effects everyone! …

[T]he death of my own two children to abortion prompted me to “do something” to help others.  Abortion trauma does not discriminate. It doesn’t matter how much money you make, where you live, the color of your skin or which gender you claim. The pain of abortion is everywhere.

A mother's child - dead or alive - is never far from her thoughts. (Photo credit: Nathan Csonka Photography on Flickr)
A mother’s child – dead or alive – is never far from her thoughts. (Photo credit: Nathan Csonka Photography on Flickr)

Over and over, in CNN’s iReports, women expressed pain that only a mother could understand. Some shared horrific stories of forced abortions; others shared their long journeys to forgiveness; many told of grief that has never left them. Tricia wrote:

Abortion is sold as a woman’s right. A solution to unwanted pregnancy. A quick procedure that once over, never has to be thought about again. I chose abortion at 18 years old. Now, 37 years later, I certainly have not forgotten. We are told that a woman has the right to control her own body as if abortion is a means of control. Once chosen, abortion creates its own affects. The physical, emotional, and psychological effects are beyond our control. Abortion does what it is designed to do….Kill and destroy; abrubtly halt an ongoing process… the process of LIFE. No woman is ever freed by abortion. …

Abortion is NOT for women it is AGAINST us.

No statement could be more true.

  • Normandie Fischer

    Last night, I had the pleasure of seeing Gianna Jessen present her story of having survived a saline abortion 35 years ago. She suffers from cerebral palsy because of the damage inflicted during the abortion. She limps badly. Her foster mother was told she wouldn’t live, she’d never walk, and she’d never learn. But this beautiful and incredibly articulate young woman has overcome all these odds and has even run in several marathons. She now travels the world, declaring her life and the value of it. The life that her mother and an abortionist tried to destroy. Thank God they failed, and she now lives.

    • Nicole Sweeney

      Gianna is a truly amazing person. She is a true heroine, in every way. She is intelligent, extremely well spoken, and has an astoundingly keen sense of humor and wit. I am so thankful that there are survivors like her that can tell their story of thriving though they were targeted for destruction. Abortion is an evil that needs to be a thing of the past in our country. Everyone loses in the abortion scenario; it leaves women emotionally scarred and wounded, with grief and regret hounding them for years to come; babies are killed and dismembered in the most horrifying methods imaginable. I truly believe and hope that this plague and national disgrace will become an obsolete practice as people realize the truth o f abortion. It will become a national shame as slavery has now become.

      • Kimberley Horning

        My mother tried aborting my sister in 1970, it failed, she was left to die in utero, a full term beautiful little girl lost her life since my mother had placenta previa, and stated as my only sister died “she already has enough kids” he still practices. No one will ever understand the loss I felt.my whole life would have been different.

  • Basset_Hound

    Wow. All these on CNN! No one can accuse THEM of hand picking stories to favor pro-lifers.

  • Infinite evil has a way of getting us down. new.usccb.org/bible/john/14:6 Have Faith this practice will end hopefully very, very soon.

  • Basset_Hound

    I copied and pasted the CNN link into a list of resource material I keep. I encourage others to do likewise.

  • Faithkuz

    Thank you for this article–please, I challeng anyone who is prochoice or only personally prolife to read the stories of women who’ve had abortions. Now that these stories are finally being told, it can no longre be assumed or stated that abortion is in the least good for women.

  • Tessa

    being a mother is innate
    they convince women that a baby is a foetus with no feelings
    but we all know that God is lord over all. there is nothing like a foetus
    from day 1, a baby is a person, can’t wait to nurture my young ones
    after i am married of course. It does hurt but God forgives
    if you have ever had an abortion, after God forgives you, forgive yourself
    don’t be too proud to forgive yourself of the sins God has forgiven you.

  • Jane1111

    uh… so i actually got an abortion when about six years ago. I actually never think about it. I dont feel I killed anyone. I think this is 100% psychological that these women feel this way. They have been told/brainwashed to feel bad. They are told “oh, don’t you feel so bad? As a mother to kill her own child!” If you don’t tell them to feel bad, they won’t!!
    My condom broke. I went to the clinic. Never regretted it for a second. Moved on with my life. Now am engaged to the love of my life. I have a masters in electrical engineering. I think we have a win win situation for everyone here.

    • Aashay Sukhthankar

      Not everyone thinks the same way and different people are affected differently. It’s not just about societal brainwashing. Emotions come from personal issues too.

    • Scryer

      Perhaps it’s less they have been brainwashed into feeling regret for their actions, considering the majority of them expected to react as as you did, and more that those who feel nothing have been. Specifically by the constant trivialising of copulation and the reiteration that so long as they are inside the womb, an infant is ‘still a clump of cells’ despite scientific evidence to the contrary.

  • Myranda N Chad Thompson

    I was 16 years old got pregnant my whole entire family tried to make me get an abortion. The dad left me and my family tried to pay me to get one. I wouldnt do it. For the simple fact my brother got put up for adoption and now hes dead. My whole family still doesnt talk to me but the will see my son now. Witch is fine with me but i know the true story behind it all. I looked at it this way if you can spend the time not protecting yourself and you end up pregnant its not that babys fault its yours. Take responsibility for your actions. Its not the babys fault at all. No reason the baby should have to suffer for your faulty action. It turns out my son Rylan is the greatest thing that ever happened to me and if i would of aborted him idk where i would be today. Hes 6 years old now and helthy and happy as could be.

    • Aashay Sukhthankar

      I feel deep pity for you. It’s a shame that when you needed support, you didn’t get it. It’s sad that a child’s father is able to just leave a pregnant mother at his own will and that your family is distanced from you due to your decision. It’s good to know that you and your son are happy and I hope you have a wonderful life looking ahead.
      Deep respect for going through all that and not breaking under all that pressure. (Y)