Pills in Black Woman's hand

I think it’s cute how much Jezebel loves being wrong about things

"Which bad decision is right for me?"

Walk with me down this path of rational thought, won’t you?

People who have sex for fun are having sex for recreation. That’s what doing something for fun is. I enjoy bowling, weaving, kayaking, and such. Some people enjoy sex. Whatever.

Recreational activities should not be covered for free under any health care plan.

“But I could get an STD having sex without condoms!”

Yes, and I could bust my toe open bowling. Insurance plans will pay for my busted toe care and your shot of penicillin. But insurance won’t – and shouldn’t – pay for steel-toed bowling shoes. Why? Because bowling is a recreational activity, and so is non-procreative sex.

Do you have a right to have sex? Sure! Why not? I have a right to bowl, eat spaghetti, drive a tractor, and thumb-wrestle with my coworkers during lunch. But no employer, taxpayer, or anybody other than me has the obligation to provide preventive “care” to make sure I can do those things without any repercussions which I may deem negative. This is why I have to buy my own bowling shoes, spaghetti bib, tractor…helmet?, and thumb-wrestling…cape. Yeah, cape.

It all seems so simple!

But what Sandra Fluke and others are screaming about is that women use birth control pills for things other than preventing pregnancy, such as regulating periods and correcting hormonal imbalances. Now, I know a little something about hormonal imbalances. I won’t go into detail, but I experienced hormonal imbalance so severely that I experienced “that time of the month” non-stop for 18 months. (Looky there, I just went into detail.) I became severely anemic and very sick. I was diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome, metabolic syndrome, insulin resistance, and adrenal fatigue, among other things.

I went to a few doctors. They all suggested birth control pills. I said no to all of them. My past experience with birth control pills led me to believe they were a temporary hormone Band-Aid that could correct my symptoms for a while but wouldn’t fix the underlying problems. One doctor even smilingly suggested uterine ablation – a procedure that would have left me infertile. At the time I was 28 and had told the doctor I wanted children. I realized I was going to have to do my own research, and I did. I spent months reading and talking to other women with my symptoms and eventually found that proper nutrition was the key to my problems. Four years later, I am 60 pounds lighter and much healthier.

I also finally found a pro-life doctor, the only one I know of in my city – Dr. Joseph Behan in Dallas – who said he had never prescribed birth control pills and never would. He is also an infertility specialist and has helped lots of women regulate their cycles and get pregnant using natural methods. He has been a godsend for me.

It is my firm opinion, based on personal experience, years of research, and countless conversations with women, that oral contraceptives and IUDs are not helpful to women – they are harmful. No, I am not a health care professional, but I am the one who ended up helping me – not the several doctors I desperately visited. Sometimes amateurs have it figured out in a way that professionals don’t. Or, as the saying goes: amateurs built the ark; professionals built the Titanic.

I’m afraid birth control pills have become a fall-back position for lazy doctors. Don’t wanna get knocked up? Don’t ask yourself questions about whether you should be having sex with the person; just take a pill. Bleeding uncontrollably? Take a pill. Cramping so badly you want to die? Irregular as all get-out? Missed your period for three months, but you’re not pregnant? Pill, pill, pill!

This argument that women need birth control pills to be healthy irks me. First, it is false. Second, it is a dishonest ploy to keep getting other people to pay for their fun sexy sex lives. Third, it is another attempt at social engineering: forcing other people to subsidize your behavior no matter their moral objections to it.

That’s why I thought Arizona’s proposed bill was a good idea. It said, basically: fine, if you need birth control for health reasons, we’ll pay for it. So prove you need it for health reasons. What is the big screaming deal?

Let the towering intellects at Jezebel tell you!

[I]t’s a little hypocritical for a political party that purports to be all about freeing the citizenry from the tyranny of government [to] actively work to subject the citizenry to the whims of their employers. And asking women to show their prescriptions to their bosses so their boss’s feelings aren’t hurt is a little much, even for conservatives.

Let me explain this to you people again in very small words, very slowly:

You. Don’t. Get. To. Have. It. Both. Ways.

If you want other people to pay for your crap, you thereby invite people into your crap. What about that is so hard to get?

You’re not asking them to pay for your heart pills. You’re asking them to pay for your birth control. So if you’re gonna claim it’s for your lady plumbing health and not consequences-free shagging, prove it. I think that’s a perfectly sound idea.

Republicans have been accused of waging a “war on women,” and they’re backing off hard by assuring everyone that contraception is safe, don’t worry; we’re not gonna touch your pills, ladies. And I believe them.

Unfortunately, down the road, I’m afraid all of us as pro-lifers – and that includes Protestants, atheists, and everybody else – are going to have to take a good hard look at oral contraceptives and their abortifacient effects. If we truly believe that life begins at conception, a birth control pill is a little Russian roulette ball that could land on death anytime. I know that’s a difficult fact to face, and we don’t want to look like scary extremists, but the truth is the truth, and if we don’t own up to it, we are doing ourselves, this movement, and the unborn a great disservice.

Kristen Walker is awesome for various reasons.

  • rebeccarose7

    It was the title that drew me in. I’m glad I’m not the only one who finds Jezebel wrong so much! But I’m glad I read the whole article for so much more than the title! The points you make are great, and not only that, but easy to make sense of! You don’t dumb it down for people, but you make it so that how can anyone not see your point? I love your writing style, great job!

    • VanTed

      I agree….. love her writing style!!  To further prove how wrong Jezebel is, women will not have to tell their EMPLOYER about their medical information in order for their BC to be payed for.  There was concern that it would but the amended version clarifies that was not  the case.  It would be between the insurance company, the patient, and the doctor.  

      Not to mention:

       “The bill would have required employers to cover any contraception prescribed for reasons other than to prevent pregnancy or cause an abortion.”  

  • oldmanbob

    If I have the right of free speech does that mean the taxpayers will buy me a radio station?  The right to bear arms, buy me a gun and shells; while your at it toss in some tickets for the Cubs, and gas for my bass boat.

    I don’t think so either.  A right is something that the goverment keeps its nose out of, not something the goverment (ie. taxpayers) pays for.

  • oldmanbob

    If I have the right of free speech does that mean the taxpayers will buy me a radio station?  The right to bear arms, buy me a gun and shells; while your at it toss in some tickets for the Cubs, and gas for my bass boat.

    I don’t think so either.  A right is something that the goverment keeps its nose out of, not something the goverment (ie. taxpayers) pays for.

    • Cassandradayle01

      there is NO

      • Cassandradayle01

        The government has nothing to do with this! it’s about private insurance coverage, and many women take hormones for a variety of reasons which have nothing to do with sex. For example, hormone caused migraines, and worse, endometriosis and many other women health matters which no one in the world wants an old man named Bob to be making decisions for us on our health care. 

        Here is some eduction for you:
        http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001913/#adam_000915.disease.treatment
        For other women, treatment options include:Medications to control pain
        Hormone medications to stop the endometriosis from getting worse
        Surgery to remove the areas of endometriosis or the entire uterus and ovariesTreatment to stop the endometriosis from getting worse often involves using birth control pills continously for 6 – 9 months to stop you from having periods and create a pregnancy-like state.

        • JoAnna Wahlund

           Um, the government is the entity FORCING PRIVATE INSURERS to provide contraception without a co-pay (i.e., free) to anyone who wants it, even if providing contraception for recreational use violates said employer’s religious tenets. So yes, the government has EVERYTHING to do with it.

        • http://www.facebook.com/jeep.obsessed Brooke Mehr

          “…no one in the world wants an old man named Bob to be making decisions for us on our health care.”

          But aparently you are okay with a man named Obama making those decisions for all of us by mandating the coverage of elective drugs based on the minority of women out there who may use those drugs for medical purposes. Whether necessary or not.

  • Marcy K.

    And they never mention that hormonal contraceptives are a Class 1 Carcinogen (like asbestos and tobacco) according to the World Health Organization.  So they are pumping us full of what is essentially steroids, and telling us we’ll be fine because it is a big business and becasue the feminist agenda says women have the right to behave like men behaving badly (as Teresa Tomeo says.)   You are right – doctors are lazy for not finding out what is really wrong with you and how to fix it – “here’s a pill and my cashier is down the hall and to the left.”

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Carl-Newman/100000970323482 Carl Newman

    article makes you think…great job…
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  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=21403276 Carolyn Svellinger

    I just stopped reading this and proclaimed to my 1 year old and 2 year old. 
     “I can’t even finish reading this, it’s so awesome!”  
    THANK YOU for being another voice for the “still more excellent way” in contrast to the Pill.  I tell my story to my peers so much that I believe they’re bored with it, so it’s refreshing to read of another strong woman who educated herself, who asked questions, who didn’t take the lazy route.  thank you!

  • Artsgolfer

    Hands down best article on the subject I have EVER read. You go girl! I am sharing this pronto with my teen daughter and everyone I know who has a teen boy or girl!  Bishops could use you as their spokeswoman. I would LOVE to see you in press room full of the liberal press. Applause!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=509432307 Carl Betts

    I’m not sure which was worse, the Jezebel article itself, or the chorus of imbeciles who are crying about “separation of church and state”.  Forcing people of faith to pay for birth control is an erosion of first amendment rights, not an affirmation of them.

  • Paula Cullen

    Years ago I allowed a lazy doctor to perform a total hysterectomy on me for endometriosis. It temporarily helped the symptoms, but made other things worse later on. I deeply regretted that decision and wish I would have been more diligent to find healthier, more natural solutions.

  • Catholicgirlforever

    I had a similar experience, where I bled heavily for almost 40 days straight and I was using a super-duper-maxi-pad every hour to two hours. I collapsed on my mom, and had to be taken to the ER for a blood transfusion. I went to the Women’s specialist, and all she would tel me is that I needed to take the pill, or get shots. My regular doctor told me the same thing. My mom and I ended up going to the pope Pius VI website to get help. It turned out I just needed to be taking extreme amounts of iron and a pre-natal vitamin to get everything normal. I wish that the doctors would learn a response that is better than just to “take the pill”! All it does is harm women, and sometimes in trying to put extra hormones and “fix” women, they end up sterilizing and ruining that person for life! Nothing about contraceptives is good.

  • dancingcrane

    It shouldn’t be called ‘birth control’ if it’s not for birth control. That’s the ‘free sex’ people controlling the narrative.

    I took Provera for a ‘medical condition’. Two weeks later, I was in the ER. It too solved one problem, and is the probable reason for several more. The docs are still trying to figure out what happened.

    Women are poisoning themselves for the sake of free sex, and that’s just sad.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Michelle-M-Williams/1021964754 Michelle M. Williams

       Do you eat organic? Do you not consume fossil fuels? Are you typing on a computer? Have you ever taken antibiotics for an infection? We do things everyday that are not “natural”. If we lived totally “natural” lives we would be dead before we were 40, smell horrible, and not have any teeth in our mouths.

      And all prescription medications have potential side effects. I have had horrendous effects from two prescription meds and two over the counter meds. It doesn’t mean that it is “poison” or that those meds can’t work for most people.

  • Swenson5

    You are missing the fact that by forcing a woman to show her scrips to her employer, whether for medical reasons or not, allows the employer to put his personal or religious views into the decision. The decision is between the patient and doctor. The healthcare companies have guidlines for doctors to follow and the healthcare company decides if they will pay for it. The healthcare privacy laws are there for good reasons. They are so stringent I have to get permission from my 13 year old to see his medical record. Opening this up for employers to see private health info will create a Pandora’s Box that could even lead to women loosing their jobs due to personal prejudice from the employer. Just because the President wants to make it universal coverage for all women doesnt mean that you need to turn the clock backward and take away coverage from those who already have it. If you dont want the coverage, don’t use it. if you are an employer that doesnt believe in it, use a health care company that doesnt support it. We live in a country that offers religious freedom and personal liberty and freedom to everyone. That means you have the right to practice what you believe, not that you have the right to force those beliefs on the entire population. If you dont want to use that coverage due to personal or religious beliefs, then that is your choice. You do not have the right to take that choice away from me. The fact is, birth control pills are cheap and they work for many serious health conditions. You talk about infertility specialists and natural remedies. THOSE are things that even those of us with excellent insurance do not have access to. Do you propose a mandate to ensure that everyone has equal access to those things? I assure you, that will cost the people millions more of those precious tax dollars than simple birth control pills.

    • Dre

      I agree that you shouldn’t have to show your medical records to employers but when you have to prove you have something you usually have to prove it to the insurance agency.  So your doctor would have to prove to the insurance company that you do have a medical reason for the Pill. However I’m sure most doctors will try to lie and say they are prescribing it for medical reasons… that’s what happened when the pill fist came out and contraceptives were not legal to take as contraception.

      The problem right now however is that the government is saying that ALL health care companies must provide contraception for free. So we may live in a country with freedom of religion but that right is being taken away from us by forcing everyone to provide and subsidize BC even though you say yourself you can get it for cheap.

      • Oedipa Mossmoon

        It is not “free”. It is with out a co-pay. If someone is paying thousands of dollars into a health insurance premium, hardly anything can be considered “free” until you’ve had an illness or accident that puts your costs past that of your premium. Even then, it’s not “free”, you’ve just done good risk management.

    • JoAnna Wahlund

       When I requested a pregnancy accommodation at my workplace, I had to have my OB fax a note to my HR rep recommending said accommodation. I had no problem doing so, nor did my OB. It’s not nearly as difficult as you make it out to be.

  • Oedipa Mossmoon

    I’ll leave the abstinence evangelism alone. You’re free to hope that humans would subscribe to your particular brand of sexual mores. Good luck with that.

    There are some much more problematic rationales in this piece, anyhow.

    First, writers on this site who continually declaim the idea of *free* birth control obviously have never thought through how insurance works. Anyone who pays a premium for health care coverage, and then gets services of prescriptions without a co-pay, is not therefore getting that prescription for *free*. As an insured person, you’ve pooled your risk with other participants. You may not want to contribute to someone’s birth control prescription, but you have no choice. You also have no choice but to subsidize your co-participants’ heart pills, insulin, broken bones, dog bites, cancer treatment, steroids for poison oak, psychiatric treatment, ad infinitum. Some of those things might come with a co-pay, some may not. But if they do not, it’s absurd to insist it’s free and it’s absurd to suggest that insurance can work any other way.

    Second, Arizona. “If you want other people to pay for your crap, you thereby invite people into your crap. What about that is so hard to get?” Well, the above still applies. By the very nature of pooling your risk with other participants, everyone is paying for your crap and birth control isn’t protected by privacy rules any more or less than any other prescription or procedure. It’s called HIPAA.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000084671427 Tj Freezn

    I love this comment of Kristen’s! LMAO!!!
    //If you want other people to pay for your crap, you thereby invite people into your crap. 
    What about that is so hard to get?// 

  • SuperLogic

    Great article.   I really liked the point that birth control pills just eliminate the symptom and don’t solve the problem, never had thought about that before, but I would agree with that.   It’s just a quick fix for the doctors, who don’t want to spend the time finding out the underlying issue.

  • Tishmo@gmail.com

    Before you judge people where their at, love people where their at <3

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000084671427 Tj Freezn

      *they’re :P

      ^ see, I was judging you, because you also judged Kristen :P

    • Guest

      I think you meant “they’re”, as in “they are”?

  • Jamison607

    You are such a breath of fresh air, you and your cape haha

  • concernedfemale

    Wow where to start. First of all this article is based on one persons situation. I take birth control to offset a slight hormonal imbalance that was causing me to miss class, work, interviews, and social events because of migranes which would leave me throwing up and unable to move for the rest of the day. Just because the author was able to control her cystic ovarian syndrome by other means dose not mean other women can (cystic ovarian syndrome can be caused by stress.) I do not feel that my employer needs to know what medications I take let alone why.Whats next am I going to have to explain why I need a OBGYN appointment? Should men have to explain why they need a prostate exam. Which Brings me to my second point. Ladies republicans war against women goes way further than the birth control issue. They wish to redefine rape to only include only forcible penetration with a penis in a vagina. They want to change it so that rape victims would be labeled as accusers. They also wish to make it so that low income women would no longer receive breast exams. They wish to repeal the fair wage law which states that women should be paid the same as their male counterparts. birth control pills CAN NOT CAUSE ABORTION. Here is a overview on how it works: http://health.howstuffworks.com/sexual-health/contraception/birth-control-pill.htm So please before assuming that all people who take birth control as a ‘quick fix’ know that this is not true..I guess you could argue that people who take cholesterol lowering medication are using a quick fix as well but it allows them to live their lives. And DO NOT assume that the republicans war on women is solely based on the birth control/ planned parenthood funding debate because I assure you it is not and I could go on and on about the scary proposals I have seen. 

    • Kelly

      Thank you, I appreciate the rational argument you bring to the table. We cannot extrapolate any medical situation across an entire population.

    • http://wasteyourtime.mtgames.org/ Scaevola

      You completely miss the main point of the argument. If I am coerced to pay for your contraception, you have to pay for my thumb capes. Fair’s fair.

      Also, gratuitous slander against an entire demographic (Republicans without qualification) is a funny thing to do right after saying that the article you’re commenting on is too general in its application.

    • MoonChild02

      Actually, your employer, as the person who has made a deal with the insurance company to make them the company insurer, already has all of your medical information. Saying that they have no business knowing about it is completely anathema to how health insurance works.

      I’m not Republican, but let me make a couple of things real clear:
      1. Republicans have never tried to redefine rape as solely being a penis into a vagina. What they have been doing is making sure that the abortionists know what is going on inside of a woman before she gets an abortion, so that the procedure is done safely, and making sure that abortionists allow women to see the ultrasound, which they usually don’t.

      2. Republicans are NOT trying to take away breast exams. The money going to Planned Parenthood should be spent on actual health care, and not referrals, since they do not do mammograms. They only refer for them. There are many other places to get a breast exam than Planned Parenthood, who is far from the only women’s healthcare provider in this country.

      3. Birth control pills can be abortifacients. They mostly prevent the release of an egg, true, but sometimes an egg is released, hence the high occurrence of
      pregnancy among those using birth control. In the cases in which an egg is released, birth control pills also help to prevent implantation. In those cases, conception has already occurred, though, and, therefore, the pill acts as an abortifacient.  This, in fact, was a major argument against Mississippi’s Personhood Act, that it could actually lead to the outlawing of birth control (which the writers of the bill said it wouldn’t). http://www.livescience.com/16917-mississippi-personhood-birth-control.html

      As for wage equality, I’ll give you that. It’s just one reason that, despite my Catholic upbringing, I could never be a Republican. However, that has nothing to do with the pro-life community. Yes, many pro-lifers are Republican, but not all of us are.

      • Jdjdjeeeeerrrryyy

        Actually, the main reason why pregnancy occurs on the pill is because people don’t take it the right way. Or in other words they forget to take it, take the wrong week, or don’t take it at consistant time periods.

    • Anadrs23

      WHOA WHERE to start? YOU are the asswipes  that downplay rape by comparing a  VOLUNTARY procedure (trans-vaginal ultrasound) to rape, all because you are so hysterical at the notion that if women view their “blobs of cells” before obtaining their abortions, they JUST may change their minds. (SO much for the “TRUST WOMEN” meme eh?) If a  “WAR ON WOMEN” is another euphemism for ” NOT forcing WOMEN to fund other women’s sex lives after they were told to butt out of other people’s bedrooms in the FIRST place”.. then guilty as charged.  First of all, HOW are we trying to redefine rape? HOW are we making victims the accusers? You have NO substantial evidence, all you have is your narrow-mined, “stay out of my crotch but pay for my birth control” agenda. Republicans don’t have a problem with women taking birth control, we just don’t think it should be a GOVERNMENT-FUNDED activity. I don’t get what about that is so fucking hard to understand…

    • Anadrs23

      ALSO, considering that PP does NOT offer mammograms, and that only 5% of their income is spent on Clinical Breast Examinations, I don’t see how defunding PP is a sign that we don’t want low-income women to obtain breast cancer services…If you think PP is so graet YOU write them a check…No one is stopping you

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001171348081 Alyssa Lauer

    I took birth control for a couple of months to help with cramps, and they didn’t help, and I’m pretty sure that they caused my depression and left my hormones still a little messed up. Don’t think I’ll ever take ‘em again…

    • Oedipa Mossmoon

      I wish you well with that. But do you think your experience (or Kristen’s) allows you to extrapolate your findings out the rest of the female population?

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001171348081 Alyssa Lauer

        No, I’m just saying that messing with hormones can be a dangerous thing, especially when it’s concerning something as serious as reproduction. Doctors really need to work out other options to provide patients with. I think that reproduction is such a huge force of nature that it’s pretty foolish that we think we could ever possibly control it with artificial hormones and such.

        • http://www.facebook.com/people/Michelle-M-Williams/1021964754 Michelle M. Williams

           Yes, birth control pills can be dangerous.

          So can Ibuprofen (I had a friend who was in the hospital for almost a month thanks to it), Tylenol (I found out last year that I have a sensitivity to it), and pretty much every prescription drug on the market.

          It doesn’t mean that it can’t work out for most people or that it is “bad”. The birth control pill does work out for most women as designed and has far fewer side effects compared to many other prescription medications.

  • Missy

    It’s rather ironic that people are talking about how bad and unnatural the birth control pill is through the Internet. Hundreds of millions of women have used it without a problem. Tylenol and Ibuprofen have caused far more complications.

  • http://www.facebook.com/AprilCasey89 April Casey

    Yet another great article! 

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/LKJEZYVOV63QYFKJTISCIGODYI Asie

    I have POCS as well. I was not as lucky as you. I had to take BC pills. Does that make me in league with Fluke and the other women because I couldn’t control my POCS with diet? Even though I tried for two years? My doctor is Pro-life as well, what does that make him for prescribing BC pills to make sure I had a chance at children? A pro-choice doctor? I spent two years or more trying to alter my diet and work out but I became at a greater risk for cancer, type 2 diabetes and other things. Sometimes, hormonal imbalances can’t be fixed naturally. Don’t lob all BC uses in with Pro-Choicers. That’s not fair at all. 

  • Lauren

    I had the same experience. I would not have a period for months at a time longest was 6 months. I went to the Doctor and every test was given and they told me I was the Healthiest person they have ever seen with this problem and told me the pill would be the best thing. I said no and lived with no period and extremely painful, long, heavy periods when it finally did come.  
    7 months ago I completely changed the way I ate by going vegan, mostly organic, and really being aware of what i was putting in my body (if i cant read an ingredient im not eating the food). Two months in I had and have kept on a regular 28-30 day cycle. I have very little cramping and its really not that heavy either.
    I wish more people would stop taking pills and just realize that if you change your lifestyle it can help so much.

    • Jdjdjeeeeerrrryyy

      Unfortunately, some women aren’t as fortunate as you in that their health issues can’t be solved by natural and diet changes.

    • Cascarasagrada

      Hormones and antibiotics are regularly used in the US for producing milk, meat & eggs, right? Going vegan might have been the solution for you since it reduced your intake of steroids injected in the poor cows. I’m generally lacto-ovovegetarian inside EU but strictly vegan in China, their food safety is even worse than americans.

      • Jdjdjeeeeerrrryyy

        Actually many dairies don’t use hormones on their cows. Please don’t make such a blatant generalization.

        • http://www.facebook.com/jeep.obsessed Brooke Mehr

          Several dairies don’t use certain hormones, but many dairies still use artificial growth hormones, including rBST and rBGH.  

          • Jdjdjeeeeerrrryyy

            And many don’t. I personally know several dairy men and they would never use any hormones on their cows.

          • http://www.facebook.com/jeep.obsessed Brooke Mehr

            I did say that many don’t. But please don’t generalize the “dairy men” that you know to encapsulate dairies as a whole. My husband works for a dairy.

  • Amanda

    My doctor refused to believe that I don’t screw a round and wanted to put me on the pill ‘just in case’ I don’t go to that doctor anymore.

  • Colleen

    Thank you for writing this!  I’m from St. Louis, which is a leader in NFP education.  There are a dozen or so OB-GYNs that do not prescribe the pill, yet run a very successful practice treating women with hormone imbalance, infertility, PCOS, etc.  It is possible!

  • Fabric

    I would love for my tax dollars to stop paying for food stamps/welfare/medicaid/etc for people who tithe. I feel like I should not have to pay for THOSE kind of people wasting their money on church and buy their own food. However, I do not get to rescind my tax dollars from support of this behavior. Therefore, maybe you should be so kind as to stop trying to regulate I care about. 

    • Colleen

       I understand your sentiment.  The problem with that argument, however, is that when we pay taxes, we’re supporting a representative government.  We have the privilege and responsibility to vote and elect representatives that have integrity and support our views.  We have the responsibility to write to our senators and representatives concerning government spenditure/legislation we don’t want.  We all have to pay taxes to a legitimate government, even though every American probably has some issue in the budget they don’t support.  If you want to force the Catholic Church to fund your sex life, you can’t have it both ways.  It stands to reason that they should have some control over the matter.  They deserve the same religious liberty as any other faith.

      • Fabric

        It was exactly my point that you cannot have it both ways. Are you stupid? Obviously, you are Catholic.

        I appreciated my birth control being funded. I also appreciate that you don’t have a choice in doing so. And for that, I still pay my taxes which still support people who tithe and receive government aid.

        So thank you for agreeing with me, whether you realized you did or not. Dumbass.

      • Fabric

         And for that matter, many insurances cover drugs for erectile dysfunction. I don’t here much opposition to that from the catholic church. Besides pulmonary hypertension, which affects <1% of the population, it is only widely used for sexual recreation. Yet, there has not been an outcry about this. Why? Because it is not for control of women. Forcing women to bear children they do not/cannot/will ever care for.

        Also, there is not much support from you pro-lifers for children born to poor women who chose not to get an abortion or use birth control pills. This is because the catholic church only cares about preventing people from preventing pregnancy, not preventing poor qualities of life.

        And why should the Catholic church focus on this sex issue and not the scandalous behaviors that go on before their own closed doors. We all know what I am referring to. The one they just kept trying to sweep under the rug and pretend never happened. That one. That is way worse than someone using birth control pills. So how 'bout catholics shut their mouths. If you don't want pills, fine. Don't take them. But you have no right to make medical decisions about another human being. Ever. So stop it. There is nothing in the bible that strictly forbids contraceptives. Unless you read that part about the guy who spilled his semen on the floor to avoid pregnancy, then maybe. But that I think is just a perfect example of why the bible is not worth reading and is just full of cockamamie stories about lunatics.

        BTW, the church has never funded anyone's sex life. Birth control pills do not equal a sex life. You are obviously misinformed.

  • http://profiles.google.com/caitiem20 Caitie McCaffrey

    I think its great that you felt empowered to seek out a doctor to help address your medical needs.  However the key word there is you had a choice.  Forcing women to go through insurance company red tape takes control away from women and their doctors.

    When I was a teenager I started taking birth control pills for similar issues that you had.  I discussed the issue with my doctor, and we decided that I should try taking birth control pills.  Within a month my symptoms eased and I’ve stayed on the pill ever since. 

    Now I’ve been lucky that this decision to control my body was left between me and my doctor since my parents plan covered The Pill.  I didn’t have to feel embarrassed or wait an exorbitant amount of time for some insurance company to declare that I wasn’t lying about needing this for medical reasons.  Instead I returned to focusing on what was important, studying, sports, and spending time with my friends.  If you believe that everyone has a right to health care, than I don’t think you can pick or choose their personal health care for them.  That should be for the patient and the doctor to decide the correct course of action, especially when its something as simple as taking a daily pill.    

    • JoAnna Wahlund

       Women and men already have to go through insurance red tape for all manner of things. Why should contraception be treated differently?

  • http://shortskirtsandscience.blogspot.com/ ShortSkirtAndScience

    I think its great that you felt empowered to seek out a doctor to help address your medical needs.  However the key word there is you had a choice.  Forcing women to go through insurance company red tape takes control away from women and their doctors.
    When I was a teenager I started taking birth control pills for similar issues that you had.  I discussed the issue with my doctor, and we decided that I should try taking birth control pills.  Within a month my symptoms eased and I’ve stayed on the pill ever since. 
    Now I’ve been lucky that this decision to control my body was left between me and my doctor since my parents plan covered The Pill.  I didn’t have to feel embarrassed or wait an exorbitant amount of time for some insurance company to declare that I wasn’t lying about needing this for medical reasons.  Instead I returned to focusing on what was important, studying, sports, and spending time with my friends.  If you believe that everyone has a right to health care, than I don’t think you can pick or choose their personal health care for them.  That should be for the patient and the doctor to decide the correct course of action, especially when its something as simple as taking a daily pill.    

  • Tsunami

    I would add one clarification here, for the sake of those who might have issues with the claim that “proper nutrition”, etc., are the only options they have to treat PCOS.

    I should state my credentials first.  I am a Master’s student in both Philosophy and Theology at a firmly conservative Catholic graduate school, having graduated from Thomas Aquinas College in CA in 2009.  I have been studying moral theology from a Thomistic perspective for as long as I can remember.
    In the situation in which there are some range of drugs A that treat a given life-threatening illness, or even a significantly problematic one, among which drugs A are some drugs x which are non-contraceptive and some drugs y which are contraceptive,

    and x (non-contraceptive) is not enough of a financial impact that an informed conscience cannot see it as a prudent option,and x (safe) drugs are as likely to work as y (unsafe) drugs,

    then prudence dictates one use x.But sometimes x can be way too expensive, or simply impossible to get ahold of, or unlikely to work, or present other impediments.  It is also possible that the only cure available is y.  In that situation one can take a contraceptive FOR THE PURPOSE OF MEDICINE, AS LONG AS one is not intending the contraceptive end (i.e., one should probably abstain from sex for the course of treatment to be perfectly sure that one is not “cheating”, as long as this is prudent) and only for as long as the treatment is needed.

    Otherwise we are excluding the legitimate use of these substances.  The important thing to recognize is that here they are not intended under a contraceptive formality, but only as medicine.HERE IS THE OTHER IMPORTANT CONSEQUENCE OF THIS:  A Catholic college (like, say, Georgetown) can ALREADY provide such a service under insurance provided they have some reasonable assurance (like, say, a doctor’s note) that it is for the purpose of medicine!    It is not considered covering contraceptives!  So Ms. Fluke is completely misrepresenting the Catholic principles at work.

    • Oedipa Mossmoon

      My employer, even if it’s a Catholic university, has no legal or moral right to pry into the relationship between me and my doctor.

      • Tsunami

        This is an understandable reaction in the context where one is not asking the employer to pay for something they cannot morally cover.  I think that it is so understandable that the Catholic employers who follow this reasoning will typically (though they will ask for a doctor’s note) not demand the specific need, just that the doctor says it is not for contraception.

        If this is still offensive, consider this parallel situation.  Everyone considers murder wrong.  Say you walk into a gun store and try to buy a gun. You have no obvious criminal record; the gun store owner has every reason to assume all is well there.  Nonetheless, we require him to inquire into the purpose of your buying the gun, and we require in the process of licensing that the buyer undergo a thorough background check and psych test. In New York this check is done by the FBI, no less, federally.

        If he does NOT do this, he can lose his job and his store.  Why? Because it would be negligence on his part to sell a gun to someone who he hadn’t rationally and prudently satisfied himself would not go out and just shoot people or murder his wife or something. Guns, like contraceptive drugs, have both a morally licit and a morally illicit use.

        Now, it may not concern YOU why they need to know that it will not be used for contraception.  But just because you do not share their religious convictions does not mean that you have some moral prerogative that prevents them from being informed about what you are telling them to pay for. Technically, telling someone you are going to receive something via their money without eliciting an agreement from them is theft; when one lies about it, it is fraud, but fraud is not preventable in the same way as theft, because deception is involved.
        So if you are just outright trying to steal their money to buy contraceptives (like the HHS) they have a right to protect their property and their moral agency.  If you are trying to get contraceptives by presenting a fake doctor’s note saying you have PCOS, that is also theft AND it’s no longer their moral responsibility, it’s yours.  But there’s no reason one needs to pry that far if the employee is trustworthy; all they need is a doctor’s note from a registered physician in good standing which says “this woman needs this medicine for medical purposes”, and if that doctor is well-respected, that can be enough. At that point, if she is trustworthy and the doctor is likewise thus, if they give her the pills, it is not their fault if she misuses them, it’s between her and God.

        • Jdjdjeeeeerrrryyy

          There is a stark difference between buying a gun and providing contraception. Come on, you know this.

  • Oedipa Mossmoon

    Frankly, Jezebel wins this round easily. Ms. Walker’s entire rationale for this article revolves around the idea that no co-pay for contraception equals “free stuff”, even whilst the person not paying a co-pay is paying an insurance premium.

    She then goes on to insist that getting “free stuff” entitles that person’s employer to violate HIPAA laws.

    I’m not sure which assertion is more intellectually lazy.

    • JoAnna Wahlund

       You seem not to realize what HIPAA regulations entail, and you’re calling her intellectually lazy? The irony, it burns.

      • Oedipa Mossmoon

        “Irony” misused again, oy vey. If you think my assertions are wrong, then that’s not “irony”. Hypocrisy might be the word you want. Or sanctimoniousness.

        In any event, my assertions aren’t wrong. HIPAA makes clear that an employer cannot ask an employee about medical information except
        for limited circumstances in which the employer may need medical
        documentation to determine whether an employee can do a job successfully.

        If you needed documentation for some family leave, as you stated above, I’m unfamiliar with that but could understand it. Documentation about one’s sex life, however, has absolutely no bearing on one’s job responsibilities.

      • Oedipa Mossmoon

        Now, in re-reading Arizona’s HB 2625, I see that Ms. Lesko might be side-stepping HIPAA in a novel way. If that’s what you mean, please say so. I’d hate to have to accuse you of laziness, too ;-)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1351966890 Wendy Hermionie Garcia

     You seem to assume that everyone who uses contraception is unmarried, and that everyone SHOULD agree with you on your take on the pill.  I also have PCOS, and have found my condition is much better controlled on hormonal birth control.  You don’t get to dictate what HEALTH CARE choices I make, just like I don’t get to dictate them to you.  I have been advised by a board certified reproductive endocrinologist, which you are not, to be on hormonal birth control when not actively trying to get pregnant to preserve my fertility.  You see PCOS scars the ovaries each month with the half released eggs, making it harder and harder to get a mature egg released. 

    My religion, a very conservative one, does not forbid birth control.  Why am I as a married woman expected to follow YOUR religion when mine recognizes the God given gift that sexual relations are in a marriage and that sex is not just for procreation? 

    Don’t impose your beliefs on me, and don’t make me give up my medical privacy to my employer to ensure I have access to appropriate heath care.  Check your bias against the pill and realize that some of us really do take the pill for medical reasons as well as birth control, and that I’m not a sheeple because I do.

    • JoAnna Wahlund

       I’m so sorry that your doctor is refusing to treat your underlying condition and is just throwing birth control pills at you to treat the symptoms. He’s doing you a disservice.

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1351966890 Wendy Hermionie Garcia

         Again, you presume to know better for me than doctors who have examined me, my medical tests, and my results.  You presume too much.  I am also sorry that this blogger is so against human sexuality that she doesn’t even understand it’s role in a healthy marriage.

        • http://www.facebook.com/jeep.obsessed Brooke Mehr

           “I am also sorry that this blogger is so against human sexuality that she doesn’t even understand it’s role in a healthy marriage.”

          Now who is being presumptuous? I would like to know upon what you are basing that analysis of Kristin? At what point did she say that sex in a marriage has no other use than procreation?

  • Jennie

    This article makes some good points about not going for the quick fix every time simply because it is easy. I would have to say that I do not agree with the author’s approval of Arizona’s proposed legislation. I think that the reason that the legislation was (and definitely should have been) shot down was because it creates a slippery slope of employers involved in medical affairs of employees. If every person had to justify every medication by letting their employers view their medical records and histories who knows what would happen. We can say it’s illegal all we want, but this would open the door for countless employees to be fired over confidential medical information. I think supporting the total loss of medical privacy in regards to birth control medication is pretty short sided for the future of all medical privacy.

  • Kelsey

    Splendid idea. I’ll just stop my employer’s busy, professional day and PROVE to him that my periods are irregular. I’ll just bring him a big bag of bloody tampons, as well as my desk calendar with little red dots on all the days I had my period unexpectedly. That way, we can waste time, AND air out my personal and embarrassing feminine health issues with Mr. Boss Man! In addition, if I can finally get my pesky period back on track, I will throw away those pills IMMEDIATELY! because I wouldn’t want a single tax payer to spend a buck on something that doesn’t directly affect their life. That’s not the American way!

    • JoAnna Wahlund

       Actually, Kelsey, a note from your doctor should suffice. I had to provide one from my OB when I requested a pregnancy accommodation at my workplace, and he was more than happy to write one for me. I didn’t even need an office visit — I just e-mailed the office with my request and he faxed it directly to my work’s HR department. I’m sure your doctor would be more than happy to do the same for you!

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/X62ALUI2HJQKCL6Z46VHWLAAGA M Leslie

    I have to disagree with you on the issue of hormonal imbalances.  I was having my period every 9 days and I too had this and was given birth control pills to solve the problem.  I was only on them for one year and never needed them since.  I can’t say this is the correct cure for every woman but I can say it helped me.   As for any side affects that the birth control pill produces I have never suffered any because I was not on them long enough for this to happen.  All I can tell you is that I now have periods every 28 days like I am suppose to and have no complaints about the birth control pill being the reason for it.  

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