Jill Thaxton is a wife, mother of five, writer, and educator, and the creator of an uplifting new website, “Pregnant and Unplanned; Stories of Encouragement.”
You may be curious as to why this Presbyterian, American Lit.-teaching Sugar Land, TX resident would take time out of her already busy schedule to start a site for pregnant women. Jill says it all began when she looked outside the comforts of her stable life and began to think about others who may be less fortunate. As she told me in her own words:
Thirteen years ago after having two babies in the security of a happy marriage, I signed up to volunteer in a crisis pregnancy center. I knew that for many women, circumstances were quite different. Some were struggling with poverty, difficult homes, difficult boyfriends, and difficult parents. Others were struggling with lost reputations and lost dreams.
Jill’s job at the CPC was to assist a woman in charge of developing a parenting program. She sat through training with new moms, which later led her into a career as a childbirth educator and doula. As time passed, Jill’s family moved and grew to include three more children. One day Jill was following Texas Senate Bill 5, praying for it pass, which it did. That night, Jill uttered a prayer to God. She prayed that she could find time in her full life to do something meaningful to assist the women who, as she says, “wake up one day to two pink lines and think, ‘This can’t be happening- what am I going to do now?’”
When Jill awoke, the answer to her prayer came with a simple thought – start a website of personal stories. Jill believes that stories are a powerful tool to inspire people, helping them to overcome challenging circumstances. She says:
In the childbirth world, birth stories abound on the internet – there is a story for every situation: twins, home birth, cesarean, etc. They’re popular because women need to know that others have done this before, that they can do it, too. Stories help us to fight our fears and let us know that we’re not alone.
Jill wanted a site that would provide moms with needed strength to see their pregnancies through from women who’ve been in their shoes. The website has stories that deal with rape, teen pregnancy, single parenting, and dealing with a non-supportive father. I read through the stories and was touched by each one. I was especially moved by Birgit, who at the age of 14 was raped by a neighbor. Her strong Catholic family made brave choices that helped Birgit become who she is today: a wife of 36 years and mom of three, with seven grandchildren. As Birgit shares at the end of her story, “[l]ife prevailed and has come full circle. Contrary to being ‘ruined’, I can honestly say that my 54 years on this earth have truly been blessed!”
Jill wants the website to be packed full of more hopeful stories. If you have one to tell, please send her your contact info on the “Share your Story” page on her site. Jill will edit your story and keep your identity anonymous if you so desire. If you want to share your name, that option is available as well.
The site, with its bright pink background and white floating balloons, does appeal to women, but it’s not exclusive to them. Jill knows that fathers have stories to tell as well. They’re invited to send in their tales of how having a baby changed their lives for the better. If you don’t have a story to tell, share the stories that are already on the site. Post them to your Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest. Let the world know that an unplanned baby can be loved all the days of his life.
The women at feminist blog Jezebel aren’t happy that pro-lifers have discovered the “bro-choice” movement. While dismissing the movement as “tongue in cheek,” Jezebel claims that “bro-choice” quotes and articles are being “passed … from fetus fanatic to fetus fanatic” in a “pathetic quest for relevancy.”
I’m not surprised that feminists are unhappy that sites like this one are exposing the bro-choice movement – and not because it’s silly and irrelevant. It’s because “bro-choicers” have coughed up a series of appalling quotes explaining why men should support abortion.
The most infamous so far came from Ben Sherman of the Burnt Orange Report, who said Texas men should support abortion because their “sex lives are at stake”:
For those of us guys who like girls — you know, like them like them — and want to have relationships with them that may last anywhere from a few minutes to many years, we need to think about how this…hurts us, too. Can you think of anything that kills the vibe faster than a woman fearing a back-alley abortion?…And don’t be surprised if casual sex outside of relationships becomes far more difficult to come by.
Emphasis mine. (I know – talk about a keeper! Back off, girls, he’s mine!)
Other bro-choicers at Gawker echoed Sherman’s sentiment, saying abortion allows them to have admittedly “careless” unprotected sex with women, and then get out of paying child support. Wrote commenter “Brutal_Tooth” under an article about the Texas abortion bill:
I’m 29 and not every person I sleep with is someone I’d consider raising a family with. The idea of knocking someone up (through carelessness, duplicity, condom failure) who ignores my life goals and desires to complete their own biological imperative with my DNA, and later my finances, really comes off as a little…. blackmail-y.
Then there’s this gem, a video by conservative activist Caleb Bonham, who “dressed up as a ‘bro’ to find out if the ‘bro-choice’ movement supports abortion just so they can have casual sex.”
Short answer: yes. Students from the University of Colorado wholeheartedly agreed that Bonham “won’t get laid as often” without unfettered access to abortion. As one said, “[b]ro-choice is the right choice. Because, you know, if you wanna get laid – which is what college is about – you best go with the bro-choice.”
Charming. No wonder feminists want the “bro-choicers” to quietly go away: these young men are unashamed to admit that their reasons for supporting abortion aren’t exactly “pro-woman.”
With friends like these, who needs enemies?
A federal judge granted Hobby Lobby temporary exemption from the HHS abortion pill mandate on Friday, July 19. The provision, along with a steep non-compliance penalty, requires Hobby Lobby to have insurance coverage for the morning-after pill and similar birth control.
“The tide has turned against the HHS mandate,” said Kyle Duncan, General Counsel with The Becket Fund for Religious Liberty and lead attorney for Hobby Lobby. The abortion pill mandate has a losing record of 6-23 in court.
“This victory comes less than a month after a landmark decision by the full 10th Circuit Court of Appeals, which ruled 5-3 that Hobby Lobby can exercise religion under the First Amendment and is likely to win its case against the mandate,” the Becket Fund for Religious Liberty said today in a statement.
“Every American, including family business owners, should be free to live and do business according to their faith. We commend the court’s ruling which is a victory for religious freedom and freedom of conscience,” said Matt Bowman, Senior Legal Counsel for Alliance Defending Freedom.
“The Obama administration claims ‘unwavering’ support for religious freedom, but the only thing unwavering is the administration’s tenacious opposition to that freedom,” Bowman added.
U.S. District Judge Joe Heaton issued a preliminary injunction after hearing brief arguments on Friday.
“There is a substantial public interest in ensuring that no individual or corporation has their legs cut out from under them while these difficult issues are resolved,” the court said.
The judge stayed the case until Oct. 1 to give the federal government time to consider an appeal.
“This is a major victory for not only Hobby Lobby, but the religious liberty of all for-profit businesses,” added the Becket Fund.
Steve Green, the owner of Hobby Lobby, believes that providing every form of birth control would violate his deeply rooted Christian values. “It’s God’s. It’s not ours,” he says. “We’re just stewards of what God has given to us.”
And Hobby Lobby is not the only one to challenge the controversial HHS mandate.
There are now 63 separate lawsuits challenging the HHS mandate, according to the Becket Fund.
The Becket Fund currently represents Hobby Lobby, Wheaton College, East Texas Baptist University, Houston Baptist University, Colorado Christian University, the Eternal Word Television Network, Ave Maria University, and Belmont Abbey College.
In the White House briefing room yesterday, President Barack Obama commented on the jury’s decision in the George Zimmerman case. While discussing the consequences of the death of Trayvon Martin, the president was quoted as saying, “Trayvon Martin could have been me 35 years ago.”
I found it curious that President Obama’s logical train of thought could bring him to the conclusion that “Trayvon Martin could have been me 35 years ago,” but that same logic has never brought him to the understanding that that child being aborted could also have been him.
It seemed obvious that President Obama was considering the consequences of “What if it had been me?” So I decided to look up the definition of “consequences” in the dictionary and see how it would logically apply to this situation.
1. A conclusion derived through logic
2. Something produced by a cause or necessarily following from a set of conditions
3. a) Importance with respect to power to produce an effect. b) social importance
4. The appearance of importance; especially: self-importance
1. A conclusion derived through logic.
I posed a question of logic to myself while considering this definition: would Barack Obama’s mother have stopped Barack Obama from being elected the first African-American president of the United States of America if she had decided to have an abortion? The answer, of course, is yes. Barack Obama’s mother would have stopped him from being elected the first African-American president of the United States of America by stopping the natural progression of his life while he was still in the womb. This is “a conclusion derived through logic.”
2. Something produced by a cause or necessarily following from a set of conditions.
Again we have the Barack Obama example. The “cause” is Barack Obama’s mother having an abortion. Logically, it “necessarily follows” that the “something produced” is an inability of Barack Obama to be elected the first African-American president of the United States, because his mother decided to end his life while he was still in the womb.
3. a) Importance with respect to power to produce an effect. b) Social importance
Every woman who decides to have an abortion is making a decision of “importance” – a decision of “consequence.” Unfortunately, no woman can reliably predict that her son or daughter will be elected president of the United States. Logically, this means that every abortion is of consequence. Barack Obama’s mother would have had the “power to produce an effect” of consequence for the entire world.
Logically, this confers “social importance” on Barack Obama’s mother and every other woman. It also implies “social importance” concerning the issue of abortion in a much broader sense.
4. The appearance of importance; especially: self-importance.
An image of self-importance is vital to the healthy psyche of every human being. We need to know that our lives have meaning and importance, even if only to our families and friends. But when this sense of self-importance becomes inflated to the point where we believe that we have the right to end the life of another human being for reasons of personal convenience or vanity, we become narcissists.
The animal kingdom abounds with species where the male will kill newborn offspring because he knows that the female won’t breed again otherwise until the newborns have been fully nurtured to adulthood. To satisfy his own sexual desires, the male will kill the newborns. Apparently the human species has decided to devolve to the level of animals rather than evolve as a thinking species.
There are very real consequences to abortion, Mr. President. The consequences to women include increased risks of sterility, breast cancer, psychological disorders, and even death. The consequences for the nation include political gridlock, civil unrest, and a future built on lies. When we as a species embrace abortion, we return to the level of animals, where there are no behavioral boundaries to rein in our basest instincts.
Yes Mr. President, it could have been you 35 years ago. In the case of abortion, it could have been you 52 years ago.
- Planned Parenthood was committing to continue its resolve to fight abortion restrictions.
- Planned Parenthood announced the shutdown of three of its clinics – including one of its most infamous, the Bryan, TX abortion facility.
Ken S. Lambrecht, President & CEO of Planned Parenthood of Greater Texas (PPGT), sent an e-mail yesterday to the PPGT e-mail list which noted that “Planned Parenthood will continue to do everything we can to help ensure that Texas women can always rely on us for the care they need.”
On the same day, Planned Parenthood announced the closure of three of its clinics due to past Texas funding cuts to the abortion provider. In the case of the Bryan facility, it would have been slated for closure because of HB2′s requirement that it have an ambulatory care center in order to do abortions.
Instead of even attempting to do this, PPGT simply announced their closure. While this is excellent news for the pro-life community – and many babies – it’s a further demonstration of the value Planned Parenthood places on financial impact over life. Lambrecht’s letter concluded, “Thanks to your generosity and support, today our doors are open, and we’re exploring every option to ensure that Texas women continue to get the care they need.” The letter didn’t acknowledge the closings but did contain a prominent “Donate” link to ask for more money.
What makes the Bryan closing so significant is the center’s history in the Texas and national pro-life landscape. The Bryan clinic is famous for two historical pro-life markers. The first is that it is the birthplace of the 40 Days for Life campaign, which started “in 2004. It involved prayer, fasting, a 40-day prayer vigil outside the local Planned Parenthood business, and outreach, including a door-to-door information campaign that reached more than 25,000 households,” said an article from the North Carolina Register in 2007.
From there, the campaign spread and eventually grew nationwide. Now, in its twice-a-year campaign, 40 Days for Life sees successes across the nation, as many babies are saved each season.
More recently, it was in Bryan, Texas that former Planned Parenthood director Abby Johnson walked away from her job. The same doors out of which Johnson walked, in front of which many pro-lifers have prayed, often around the clock, are closing.
Karen Von Gonten is one of those who has stayed – outside the clinic in prayer. In response to yesterday’s announcement, Von Gonten, Bryan/College Station leader of the pro-life prayer group Bound4LIFE, said:
I rejoice at the announcement of Planned Parenthood’s closure of three clinics in Texas and feel privileged to have been part of a company of people who spoke out, hauled lots of kids to pray on the sidewalk, wept, and prayed even more to see abortion ended in our community. I believe that much good will come from the recent legislation that has been passed and today feel grateful to be a native Texan and lifelong resident of Bryan/College Station. Yet, I still feel the weight of the reality that abortion is merely a symptom of greater infirmity in our nation. The truth is, laws don’t change men’s or women’s hearts. And there is no person on the earth who will be able to bring true justice for the poor, pregnant teen who was raped or for her 9 week old baby she was forced to abort. So yes, I am thankful for the news today, but I will also continue to stand boldly, peacefully and prayerfully as a witness to the One who is the way, truth and life until He comes to bring justice for all who are oppressed.
Von Gonten and the teams of others in Bryan/College Station, TX have watched with awe as the Texas legislative session went from business as usual to business for babies. Gov. Perry, an outspoken advocate of life who has previously taken a stand in office – going as far as to call the Texas sonogram law “emergency legislation” that needed to be pushed through quickly to save lives, an announcement he made on the anniversary of Roe v. Wade in 2011 – has made no apologies for his work to save the lives of the unborn.
Pro-life residents of Bryan, TX can look and see before their eyes the fruit of years of labor. Often there was a 24/7 40 Days for Life campaign happening, with pro-life prayer meetings from Bound4LIFE at the same time.
As Bound4LIFE group members prayed, 40 Days for Life members would walk up to the gate and the fence, stand on the edges of the driveway to remain legal, and peacefully reach out:
“Ma’am, can I give you this brochure? May I pray for you? Will you please consider another option?” In tandem, prayer and counseling, love for the mom, love for the baby, prayers for the city, prayers for the industry.
And then. Not suddenly, really, but suddenly, it happened. From the beginning of 40 Days for Life and Bound4LIFE (which also, separately, was launched in 2004) to Johnson’s departure, to Perry’s action on life issues, to the awakening of Texas to the issue of life. Piece by piece, the puzzle came together. The fight was worth it. Lives were being saved. And then yesterday: a crucial clinic closing.
The pro-life efforts are working. They are pieces of a greater puzzle of life, matched by the efforts of prayer, legislation, private citizens working hard in their own arenas, and love for life. In moments like these, the corner of the puzzle gets filled with pieces, and the big picture begins to take shape – a reminder to never give up, because even when the completion is slow, it’s happening.
Late-term abortions have been a focal point of the media lately, highlighted by the recent banning of abortions after 20 weeks in Texas. Amid all the controversy over aborting viable unborn babies or allowing them the right to life is the hope that should be offered to expectant parents who are considering abortion in the second and third trimesters. Christcentric, a rap group created in 1998 to bring the gospel to those who have a love of hip-hop culture, and to those who didn’t necessarily grow up with the church, created a song and video to inspire that hope in such parents.
“Fight For the Children is a song centered primarily around the subject of late-term abortion,” explains founding group member Evangel (Chege Njoroge). “Initially we were asked to do a song about this heinous act because of LeRoy Carhart moving into our neck of the woods (Germantown, MD) to expand his practice.”
The group’s pastor, Charlie Baile, invited Christcentric to create a song for one of the services during the Summer of Mercy 2.0, which was a week of peaceful, prayerful focus on late-term abortionist Carhart. Carhart began performing late-term abortions in Maryland because of what Evangel refers to as “loopholes [in Maryland laws] that allow a mother to abort up to the day of birth, as long as she can get a doctor to sign off that the baby’s life or the mother’s life or health is in jeopardy[, including] emotional health, mental health of the mother, i.e.: can’t afford it, don’t want it.” Evangel says that most of the mothers who go to Carhart for late-term abortions have healthy babies, and their own health is not suffering.
The video for “Fight for the Children” depicts a young couple struggling financially. They do an internet search for abortion while Christcentric raps:
This is death’s delivery, transporter. Planned torture, if caught on a camcorder, all would see it’s manslaughter. […] They say the smartest act is to induce a heart attack. You should cringe. They put a syringe inside is the advice. ‘Cause if it’s delivered alive, it has rights.
Also featured in the video is a group of children singing the chorus, “We fight for the rights of the children. It’s a life, their plight is to kill them.” The presence of the children, singing in a cemetery to save their own peers, is chilling. Each of them is missing classmates, peers, and friends, lost to abortion.
As the couple in the video visits a pregnancy services center, the mother holds a model of an unborn child and weeps. Ultimately, the couple decide to let their baby live as Christcentric raps:
An unwed teenage girl was pregnant, but her fiancé wasn’t the baby’s father. He could’ve seized this right and aborted that fetus’ life, but he would’ve slaughtered the Lord Jesus Christ.
Christcentric not only opens listeners’ eyes to the horrors of late-term abortion, but sheds light on the fact that not only was the life of Jesus one Whose existence is today an argument for abortion, because His mother’s fiancé wasn’t the father, but that Mary was giving birth to and raising a child for Whom much suffering and an early death was destined – another main argument for late term abortion.
Parents themselves, Evangel says Christcentric’s stance on abortion is that it is not supported by scripture and that they all believe strongly in the right to life. In regards to rape and incest, Evangel says that one sin should not justify another.
The group urges pro-lifers to get involved. Evangel explains:
To end abortion in this country, I think would take a massive effort in educating the people as to what actually occurs in an abortion. People are grossly misinformed and treat it like it is just another decision they are faced with, rather than murdering a life. [Ending abortion] can be done through the education of our youth in the school systems. They will be faced with these issues as they grow in life, so what better way to prepare them than to teach about it?
He also advises us all to pray for an end to abortion and to be available, in a peaceful and loving manner, to help someone who is considering abortion.
Christcentric is a Christian rap group/ministry made up of several members: Apologist (William Mendoza), Doctrynal (Carlos Gonzalez), Israel the Puritan (Israel Felix), and Evangel (Chege Njoroge). The Christcentric ministry family includes Benjamin the Esquire (Ben Otero) and Zae da Blacksmith (Jose Cañas). Q-D.O.G., Quincy Disciple of God’s Son, has left the group to pursue pastoral studies in seminary. Their music is available at www.christcentric.net and iTunes.
The presence of birth defects found before a child is born will often cause his parents to make a life-or-death decision about their child. Do they risk the unknowns and have a baby who could potentially be “abnormal?” Or do they “dispose” of the child and any potential “problems”?
While some children may be able to live with abnormalities, others will not live long on this earth. One such group of children who are not expected to live long after birth are those with anencephaly. Anencephalic children are born with a brain stem, but without the parts of the brain that are located above the brain stem. The top part of the child’s skull does not form. Life expectancy of the 73% of children who survive birth is between hours and days.
Years ago, medical textbooks referred to these children as “monsters,” but thanks to one midwife, that was changed.
In the 1980s, this midwife was examining a pregnant woman but could not find which part was the head of the unborn child. An ultrasound revealed that the child had anencephaly. Those who looked up that term in Oxorn’s Human Labor and Birth found that the child would be born looking like a monster. According to the midwife:
Imagine birthing knowing that your baby will die in the first couple days. Add to that the underpinning of having heard and read that your baby is known as an anencephalic monster. Imagine how we all felt, the medical and nursing staff, anticipating that a monster was soon to be born.
The day came when the little girl was born, but she was no monster. The midwife described her as having “a sweet face and rosebud lips.” A hat was placed on her head to cover up the fact that the back of her head was missing. The girl lived for three days, and was held by her father as she died. The midwife continued to be a support to the family as they grieved the loss of their daughter.
Later, the midwife was reading Oxorn’s Human Labor and Birth and came across his monster definition. And she decided to challenge Dr. Oxorn on his use of descriptions:
I asked him if he had ever thought about the fact that most parents start to fall in love with their baby while he/she is still in utero. That the soon-to-be child starts to have a life, a future, and a past all at once before birth. How DARE he and all other writers of textbooks refer to these babies as “monsters”! What on earth could be gained by perpetuating that term?
The doctor responded with an apology, saying that he would change the description in his next edition. And he did. According to the midwife:
Since 1986, when student midwives, nurses and doctors study birth defects in Human Labor and Birth they are not reading about an anencephalic monster, but are reading about a baby with anencephaly. The words we use are very powerful. I encourage parents, midwives, nurse, doctors and others to correct a perceived wrong.
While parents expecting children with anencephaly will need to be prepared for the birth defects and shortened life expectancy, no child deserves to be called a monster. And thanks to this midwife, the academic perception of anencephalic children has changed from monsters to humans!
Editor’s Note: This summer, we will be providing you with a Life of the Week story every Friday. Our previous Life of the Week articles are here:
- Life of the Week: Coming your way soon
- Life of the Week: Marlena Diedrich and the Acts of Grace Foundation
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- Life of the Week: From abortion to pro-life speaker
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Check back with us every Friday for a new Life of the Week column!
Today, Texas Gov. Rick Perry signed into law one of the nation’s strongest pro-life bills. The historic moment came as a result of last week’s efforts by thousands of pro-life activists who flocked to Austin to urge lawmakers to stand for life.
I was one of those pro-life activists – a boy from Ohio who made the decision to “Stand For Life.”
I was inside the capitol rotunda when pro-abortion advocates laid siege – in a profane and vile standoff.
These representatives of the culture of death showed the nation their uncivil behavior – opposed to a commonsense bill to protect unborn children who can feel pain.
The mainstream media elevated Texas Sen. Wendy Davis to sainthood, and they glamorized the “passion” of the pro-abortion crowd – but I want to show you what really went down in the Lone Star State.
WARNING: The following photos do contain vulgar images and language. Proceed with caution.
Some people got pictures with Cecile Richards.
Odds are they didn’t use Planned Parenthood’s services.
And some got pictures with Abby Johnson.
Abby Johnson left Planned Parenthood and founded And Then There Were None to help other women get out of the abortion industry.
Some girls had catchy signs.
Stay classy, girls.
Others had less catchy, more realistic ones.
The truth hurts.
One mother used her children.
Does this count as child abuse?
Other children held signs.
How can you say “no” to those little faces?
One father used his daughter.
Disclaimer: Her father is actually proud of her carrying this sign.
Another daughter spoke without saying a word.
Her father must be proud, too.
One woman used her unborn child.
Anyone else find this ironic?
This boy told his story.
He was born at an age where a baby can still be aborted without the passage of HB2.
The legislators had show and tell.
It could have been arts and crafts. Either way, these legislators think women will go back to using coat hangers if they want to get an abortion after 20 weeks, and they claim to trust women.
These legislators shared baby shoes.
Texas State Rep. Jodie Laubenberg held baby shoes to symbolize what the bill is about – saving babies’ lives.
Some women chained themselves to the Senate gallery.
Believe it or not, that’s not a peace sign. It’s just her way of opposing the bill.
Then called themselves champions.
Can you hear the National Anthem playing?
And Some of them got a little carried away
They did things you wouldn’t let your kids do, especially in the Texas capitol building.
Meanwhile, a group of students prayed in front of Planned Parenthood.
Because chaining themselves to the gallery just didn’t seem feasible.
Some made “Wanted” posters for their opposition.
Because making “wanted” posters with legislators on them is not inciting violence.
Then thanked the Texas Department of Public Safety.
At the passage of the bill, all the members in the Senate also thanked the DPS for their hard work.
But nothing sums it up like this.
When you have to make this sign, things probably aren’t going so well. Who disrupted civil order? Who brought jars of feces and urine, bricks, and used tampons into a capitol building to throw on people? Who padlocked themselves to the Senate gallery? I guess it was THE PEOPLE, not the mob, that forced me and 50+ other pro-lifers to go into lockdown because the Texas Department of Public Safety said it was no longer safe for us.
And now the bill is law.
After all has been said and done, Governor Perry signed the bill into law, Thursday, July 18, 2013.
As a result of this bill, thousands of babies will have a chance at life.
My hope is, as Texas goes, so goes the country.
This is a clip from an episode of Life Report called “Shawn Carney from 40 Days for Life on the State of the Pro-Life Movement.” In this clip, I asked 40 Days for Life co-founder Shawn Carney what he believes the pro-life movements greatest weakness is. This is a follow-up question from my last post with Shawn’s answer about the pro-life movement’s greatest victory so far.
Click the embedded video and it will start at the right place in the interview. This particular topic ends at 21:11.
If you don’t want to watch the 3-minute video, you can read the full transcript below.
Shawn Carney: Division, like anything else. And that’s the weakness of any company, school, church, or anything. We’re a divided movement because we’re a family.
Josh Brahm: If you don’t believe that, go to Abby Johnson’s Facebook page because there is no more debated –
Shawn Carney: This might be a family show. I don’t know what you’re going to see on Abby’s Facebook page. I don’t even go to Abby’s Facebook page!
That’s right. It is divided. And I got asked that one time by a Canadian secular media outlet. And, in some sense, it should be divided because we’re is a family and this is a passionate issue — because these are our brothers and our sisters that are being aborted. These are our brothers and our sisters that are having the abortions. And these are our brothers and our sisters that are working in the industry.
Everybody has a strong opinion and thinks that their way is the best way. And that makes for a closer knit family, but it has provided stumbling blocks. And that’s why it has been — we feel — one of our roles as an organization at 40 Days for Life — to bring so many people into the movement so that they can get involved.
Because how many people do we know — especially the post-abortive women and the people who supported abortion who did have some kind of conversion or change of heart — they always say, “If people only knew about the humanity of the baby. If people only knew that every single abortion stops a beating heart.”
This is an education process and we can’t be so divisive that we don’t recruit all of the new people. This is the worst thing that our country has to offer. It is so horrific that we can’t show it on TV, even if we wanted to. No one would do it.
And yet, history will judge that. History is going to judge that and we want to be on the right side of history. And we have to articulate our message to get more people involved.
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Special thanks to Kimberly Carmany for the transcription. Thanks to Andrea Gleiter for helping to edit this post.
In today’s culture, the word “temperance” is likely to conjure up images of monochromatic clothing, stern Sunday schoolmarms, or puritanical attempts by society to curb alcohol consumption. For many, these are hardly images that lend the word a welcome connotation.
In reality, though, temperance, strictly defined, is “a habitual moderation in the indulgence of the appetites or passions.” Or, simply put, “restraint.”
Unfortunately, we live in a society in which temperance is virtually unheard of and that believes that the passions are meant to be indulged. It’s no wonder this attitude translates into the arena in which children as young as kindergarten are indoctrinated into sexual activity while abortion is presented as the “out” from any consequences. Planned Parenthood – the nation’s largest abortion provider – even has guidelines for implementing sex education in schools. Nothing like encouraging children towards sexual activity and then pointing them directly to the abortion clinic.
Think about it, though. In what areas does our society not believe that “giving in” is the way to go? We want to look fit but not give up junk food, so we find artificial sugar and fat substitutes that allow us to indulge. Our physical health suffers for it, of course, but hey, we look good. So it must be okay.
We want the fulfillment of a relationship but not the discipline of marriage, so we divorce (or cheat on) our spouses and find someone else, offering the excuse that we’re just “following our hearts.” Our emotional health suffers for it, of course, but hey, we look happy. So it must be okay. We want to have nice things but not discipline ourselves to save for them. So we rack up thousands of dollars of debt. Our financial health suffers for it, but hey, we look “set.” So it must be okay.
Is it any wonder, then, that “self” has become the object of obeisance for Planned Parenthood and the pro-abortion movement in general? Sleep with whomever you want; use protection, and get rid of any “unwanted pregnancy.” Of course, the emotional, psychological, and often physical health of women and young girls suffers for it (not to mention the life of the baby), but hey, women look liberated. So it must be okay.
But in reality, it’s not okay. Planned Parenthood claims to be in favor of reducing the number of abortions – even so far as calling itself a leader in reducing the need for abortions. Yet as long as Planned Parenthood keeps leading kids to the bedroom under the guise of “education” and then driving them to the abortion clinic under the guise of “choice,” their actions decry their claim.
Sure, temperance is considered a bad word today – good heavens, who even knows anymore what it means? But there’s a reason it’s a virtue (another unknown word). And if PPFA really wanted to reduce the number of abortions, they would increase talk of temperance.
But I’m not holding my breath.
Earlier this year, a young man with Down syndrome named Robert Ethan Saylor was killed. He lived in Frederick, Maryland, and one night, he wanted to see a movie. After it ended, he wanted to see it again, and so he stayed in the movie theater. Off-duty police officers working at the theater were called, and it was these police officers who were responsible for his death. He died due to positional asphyxia, something that a police department spokesperson admitted they were trained to avoid.
Ever since this senseless death happened, questions as to how Ethan could have died have been raised. The three police officers responsible kept their jobs. An internal investigation, conducted by the police department itself, took place, and no information was released – not to the family, and not to the public. Some documents are finally coming to light, though, and revealing an even more horrific side to this already tragic story.
Ethan went to the movies that evening with a caretaker, an 18-year-old woman who was one of a number of aides who worked with the Saylor family to help Ethan have as normal a life as possible. And she explained to authorities in the investigation what happened.
Ethan, due to his mental disability, sometimes had angry outbursts. When the movie ended, he liked it so much that he stood up and clapped, and then wanted to see it a second time. When they went to leave the theater, he got angry. His aide called his mother and another caretaker who told her to give him a few minutes to calm down. While the aide went to get the car, Ethan returned to the theater. When she went to get him, the manager confronted her. She tried to explain that they were having an issue and that she was going to take care of it, but the manager still went and got police officers. And that is where the story takes a turn for the worst.
“Then the sheriff went in and started talking to Ethan and Ethan was cursing at him,” the woman wrote, adding that the officer threatened to arrest Saylor. “I then said, ‘Please don’t touch him, he will freak out.’”
An autopsy report said that Saylor did not like to be touched and suddenly the deputies had their hands on him. The 294-pound man flailed, cursed and cried for his mother, according to witness accounts.
The aide heard Ethan crying and screaming, telling them not to touch him. And then suddenly, everything stopped.
As the deputies tried to restrain and lead Saylor from the theater, the four fell in a heap on a slightly inclined ramp and, during a struggle, the deputies placed three sets of handcuffs on him. When Saylor suddenly grew quiet and unresponsive, the deputies removed the handcuffs and administered CPR.
The Chief Medical Examiner’s Office in Baltimore ruled Saylor’s death a homicide as a result of asphyxia. There was unexplained damage to his larynx.
Witnesses reported seeing a deputy with his knee on Ethan’s back. The medical examiner listed his cause of death as homicide. According to the autopsy, his voicebox was fractured, and his lungs had filled with blood. The autopsy also showed that he had a number of bruises, cuts, and abrasions.
Did I mention that the police officers responsible, who ignored the warnings of Ethan’s aide, received no punishment and are still working today?
Now, you might be wondering what this has to do with the appalling number of babies with Down syndrome who are aborted. Consider the reaction to the murder of Ethan Saylor. There has been very little attention paid to it, outside Down syndrome communities and organizations. Many people who are familiar with the story side with the police. The aide should have handled it better, they say. He shouldn’t have been in a public place. Or they say, He was a 300-pound man with Down syndrome; of course the police had to get physical with him.
He deserved it. He should have stayed home. That’s the reaction when people read this story. The astounding lack of compassion and willingness to extend basic human dignity towards another human being, simply because he has a disability or mental illness, is terrifying. Ethan Saylor was a 26-year-old man with Down syndrome who was treated like an animal, and the people responsible left with no repercussions whatsoever. Most people don’t know about this tragedy, and a good number of the ones who do think the officers did nothing wrong.
If no one bats an eye when a man with a disability is treated like an animal, then why would anyone care about the slaughter of unborn children with Down syndrome? People learn about the homicide of a man with Down syndrome, over the price of a movie ticket, and think he brought it on himself – for being mentally disabled, for being out in public, for having the nerve to get angry at police officers.
We put such low value on the lives of those with disabilities, robbing them of basic human dignity at every turn. Heaven forbid they go out in public, because they may not act “correctly.” Heaven forbid they get angry over something, because people with Down syndrome are supposed to be little balls of happiness and sunshine 24/7. Heaven forbid someone who doesn’t always know how to act “normally” think he deserves to be treated just like the rest of us.
Is it any wonder, then, that when a mother gets a prenatal diagnosis of Down syndrome or another disability or birth defect, her first instinct is to kill her baby?
Stopping the Down syndrome holocaust isn’t about stopping advanced prenatal testing. It will take more than just getting more information and resources out there. If we are going to stop the murders of these defenseless children, then we need to take a long, hard look at ourselves. Many pro-lifers advocate for unborn children with Down syndrome, but if we aren’t also trying to change hearts and minds – to show others that people with disabilities also deserve respect, dignity, and compassion – then we will be failing them.
In recent months, President Obama has become an eloquent spokesman against violence, and particularly violence upon children. His comments have been poignant and stirring, and every American should listen. Especially President Obama.
Unfortunately, though Obama claims to oppose violence, he remains fanatically committed to preserving the legality of brutal dismemberment abortions. I have put together this short video highlighting the discrepancy between his rhetoric and practice:
On Sunday, in response to the acquittal of Trayvon Martin’s killer, President Obama issued this statement:
We should ask ourselves, as individuals and as a society, how we can prevent future tragedies like this. As citizens, that’s a job for all of us. That’s the way to honor Trayvon Martin….We should ask ourselves if we’re doing all we can to stem the tide of gun violence that claims too many lives across this country on a daily basis.
I wholeheartedly agree. And while we are at it, perhaps we should also ask ourselves if we’re doing all we can to stem the tide of clamp violence that claims too many lives across this country on a daily basis. As President Obama reminded us in the video above:
If there is even one thing we can do as a country to protect our children, we have a responsibility to try.
What can you do today to protect children?
I have a friend with Down syndrome. I will call him Tim.
Tim probably does not know how unusual his birth was. In our enlightened society, 90% of children like Tim are shredded with a vacuum tube or slowly dismembered, one limb at a time, prior to their birth. All of this is done out of compassion, of course. By popular standards, Tim is neither beautiful nor smart, and as we all know, life is not worth living unless you are beautiful and smart.
However, over the years I spent with Tim, I noticed something rather remarkable. Tim did not seem to realize that he was miserable. In fact, he seemed to enjoy his life. We watched movies together, camped on the beach, went rock-climbing, and spent a week on a houseboat. Tim lived life with enthusiasm and seemed to enjoy all of these activities just as much as, and perhaps a little more, than any other boy his age. I never sensed that Tim resented his parents for refusing to dismember him.
Furthermore, not only was Tim oblivious to his misery, but his very presence tended to make other people less miserable. Self-absorbed teenage girls became more friendly when they were around Tim. Self-obsessed teenage boys became less aggressive when they were around Tim. And Tim made everyone laugh.
Nevertheless, I also noticed that Tim was difficult. He was hard to control. He would not always sit still, be quiet, or do what he was told.
This leads me to suspect that the real reason our society dismembers boys and girls like Tim is not out of compassion, but rather out of selfishness. So perhaps we should drop all of this nonsense about mercy-killing. We kill handicapped people not because they are miserable. They are not miserable. We kill handicapped people because we do not have the time to deal with them, and we do it before they are born because we do not have the stomach to watch.
On Saturday night, George Zimmerman was found not guilty of second-degree murder and manslaughter in the death of Trayvon Martin. Zimmerman claimed self-defense. However, there is still the possibility of a civil lawsuit, and the NAACP is calling for the Department of Justice to get involved. Here is their petition:
Attorney General Eric Holder,
The Department of Justice has closely monitored the State of Florida’s prosecution of the case against George Zimmerman in the Trayvon Martin murder since it began. Today, with the acquittal of George Zimmerman, it is time for the Department of Justice to act.
The most fundamental of civil rights — the right to life — was violated the night George Zimmerman stalked and then took the life of Trayvon Martin. We ask that the Department of Justice file civil rights charges against Mr. Zimmerman for this egregious violation.
Please address the travesties of the tragic death of Trayvon Martin by acting today.
Regardless of your thoughts on the outcome of the trial, we can all agree that the death of Trayvon Martin is saddening. The NAACP certainly feels that way. It is curious that they would call the right to life “[t]he most fundamental of civil rights,” however. This is indeed true, but it is hypocritical of such a group to apply this right to a young man such as Trayvon Martin, but not to unborn babies.
The NAACP formally claims not to take a stance on abortion. It is impossible to take such a claim seriously when we consider the NAACP’s actions on the issue. Ryan Bomberger, co-founder of the Radiance Foundation, discusses this in an article from LifeNews.com. The article contains a fact sheet, ”YOU DECIDE,” which can be found on TooManyAborted.com, an outreach program of the Radiance Foundation.
In 2004, Julian Bond, NAACP Chairman, actually boasted at a NARAL gala that African-American women “exercise that precious right at a rate far exceeding their percentage of the population.” How are those numbers something to be proud of unless you are pro-abortion? And when you refer to abortion as “that precious right,” it sounds like you think of that right as a good thing, as in you are pro that so-called right.
Unfortunately, Bond is correct on his percentage. African-American women aren’t just “exercis[ing] that precious right”; they are killing off countless black children. Another fact sheet from TooManyAborted.com explains how abortion is the “NUMBER ONE KILLER” of African-Americans.
Perhaps even more alarming than boasting of such high abortion rates is that the NAACP really doesn’t seem to like the pro-life side. The group has called out pro-life advertisements as “racist.” But in 2010 the national NAACP also pressured a Georgia chapter of the NAACP to withdraw its support for a state bill to ban abortions based on race. The NAACP then opposed Congressman Trent Franks’s 2011 Prenatal Nondiscrimination Act banning abortions based on race or sex. And in Arizona, a branch of the NAACP is even part of a lawsuit against a state ban on abortions based on race or sex. Such a move demonstrates being in favor of not only abortion, but also the destruction of one’s own race.
Trayvon Martin’s death at such a young age is a tragedy, but if the NAACP really cared about the “right to life” and wanted to help young black children, it would extend its concern to all black children – including those waiting to be born.
It was like nothing I’ve ever seen. People were chanting and roaring at each other, ready to attack at any moment, like lions eagerly awaiting just the right time to pounce on their prey. I felt like one of them might even try to eat me for lunch – I mean, after all, it was almost lunchtime.
But nevertheless, I fearlessly held up my little video camera in the middle of the orange sea of protesters, ready to catch whatever nonsense may occur inside the Texas state capitol’s rotunda (dirty tampons being tossed at blue shirts, fights, etc.). I stood my ground for what seemed like hours when someone tapped me on the shoulder.
“Can I interview you, Miss?” It was a man in a suit holding a microphone and another one with a large video camera with a sticker on the side that read “ABC News, Channel 12.” It was the one day I had decided not to wear any makeup, my hair wasn’t washed, and both of the sleeves of my oversized baby-blue shirt were cleverly hemmed up with fire engine-red duct tape which bore the word “LIFE” in black sharpie. The bright light attached to the camera was blinding, and I could feel my knees beginning to shake, but my adrenaline rush from the excitement and loudness of the crowd overcame my nerves. Without any hesitation I yelled, “Yes!,” and the anchor pointed his microphone at me.
“Sources are saying that the bill will be passed by the Senate in a few hours.” He paused. “So why are you still here?”
I tried desperately to drown out the noise in the background. What did he just say? I thought.
“Pardon?” I yelled back at the anchor. He repeated the question, and this time I knew what my answer would be.
The orange shirts (pro-abortionists) carried signs which read things like, “pro-choice = pro-life,” “Keep your rosaries off my ovaries,” “My body, my choice,” and “Wendy Davis is my hero.” One girl with our group had the back of her shirt ripped by an angry protester, and another lady I interviewed had her things stolen by a mob of people in the overflow chamber. There were threats from the pro-abortionists that human feces and urine would be thrown at people in blue (more than 20 jars were found filled with waste at security), and one even reported a pro-abortionist carrying a semi-automatic rifle. Some orange were smoking, some were spitting, and some were cursing at those dressed in blue silently praying and singing hymns. Inside the Senate gallery, women chained themselves to posts and sat down in front of the entrance to block the DPS as well as those inside the Senate chambers – up to thirty were arrested and literally carried off the premises kicking and screaming, “Shame on you, shame on you!”
There were more than a few times I almost lost my cool while standing in the middle of the orange sea, and the pro-aborts weren’t the only ones I had resentment towards. One woman carried a large cross with a sculpture of the body of Jesus on the front, and she was chanting, “Don’t mess with Mother Mary; she will kick your a**.” The day before, some blue shirts held large, graphic signs of aborted babies, screaming, “Murderers go to Hell.”
Why was I still here? Good question. We were 90% sure the bill was going to pass. So why was I still fighting for it? The answer was simple. I wasn’t fighting for the life of the bill anymore. I had bigger reasons for being in the middle of the life-threatening mob in the Texas capitol.
It was war – one side against the other, fighting over life and death. Good versus evil. But I didn’t want to fight anymore – I didn’t want to argue or scientifically prove that an unborn baby is a human being. No, these people were far from hearing the truth, and in fact, their goal was to destroy it. These people didn’t need my bitterness – they needed love. The media didn’t need to catch furious blue shirts yelling at orange ones, calling them murderers – but instead, it needed to capture the love and serenity we offered. And that’s exactly why we were still there: to prove that every life is valuable – in the womb or out of it.
If I could demonstrate the same compassion and love I have for unborn babies on the out-of-control pro-abortionists unmistakably dressed in every shade of orange, then maybe one of them would conceive the truth of the pro-life message: that every life has value.
The great Dr. Seuss once said, “A person’s a person, no matter how small.” But what if we changed that quote to say, “A person’s a person, no matter how rude, how annoying, how out-of-control”? You fill in an adjective. What if we treated every person as if he or she has worth, as if the value of life is immeasurable? Wouldn’t the world be a different place?
Mother Teresa said, “If we believe, we will love, and if we love, we will serve.”
I stood in that terrifying rotunda because I believe that every human being deserves a chance at life. And I went to Texas because I wanted a chance to put my beliefs into action.
Thursday at 5:30 am, after a 10-hour Greyhound bus ride to meet Students for Life in Austin, I was unsure of what to expect from the many pro-abortion supporters I knew had gathered at the Texas State Capitol.
The first day was great – the Students for Life group got to meet Rick Santorum, who encouraged us in our fight for the unborn. I definitely consider him one of my personal heroes, so having him speak to us was amazing! We also met with Texas Representatives Bryan Hughes and Steve Toth, who welcomed us to the Capitol with open arms and lots of prayers. Later on, these two fine gentlemen would provide our group with hotel rooms just for us to shower in, after the YMCA kicked SFLA out.
After lunch, we headed down to San Antonio to meet the Planned Parenthood bus tour for a silent protest. There are pictures of some of the signs below, although several of them were simply too vulgar to post. While the people who showed up for that event weren’t as bad as the ones we would see the next day, there was still some vitriol hurled our way. But most horrifying to me was that when people read the sign the girl next to me was holding, that said, “Wendy Stands With Gosnell,” they had no idea who Gosnell is.
Friday morning we arrived at the Capitol around 10 am and got to work. Some of us, like me, were passing out red “LIFE” tape; others were going around getting our fellow pro-lifers to sign the Statement of Peace, vowing to remain a peaceful presence; still others handed out snacks and water to all of those standing in line waiting to enter the gallery, pro-life or not.
At lunch, we walked to a park near the Capitol, where the Austin Knights of Columbus were nice enough to provide us with burgers, chips, cookies, and drinks. Earlier in the week they had provided SFLA with many inflatable mattresses so that we didn’t have to sleep on the floors of the churches we were staying at.
When we returned from lunch, Representative Bob Deuell provided us with blue shirts to pass out, along with water for anyone who needed it. Once back inside, things had taken a turn for the ugly – as we prayed, we were yelled at repeatedly (see videos below), and we began to hear the reports of DPS confiscating bricks and bottles of urine and feces that pro-aborts had planned to throw at the senators. At one point, a member of our group was violently shoved by the protesters as he recorded the scene in the rotunda. We had heard other rumors about potential violence planned by the protesters and had been warned that we might be asked to evacuate at any moment.
Keeping this in mind, a friend and I got in line for the gallery, hoping to be there when the historic vote finally went down. As we snaked through the line, things continued to get louder and louder as the majority of the pro-abortion crowd gathered in the rotunda, chanting, and strangely bouncing tampons off an orange flag. As we neared the gallery, the roar grew so loud that we could hardly hear each other talk; we later found out that this is when the group of women tried to padlock themselves to the gallery railing, one of whom succeeded and had to be cut free. Shortly after this, we were informed that DPS had determined that the atmosphere was too dangerous for those wearing blue, and pro-lifers were being escorted out of the public parts of the Capitol and into various offices. Our group gathered in Representative Hughes’s office, where we were locked in for our own safety and guarded by DPS officers.
As more than fifty people sat in the office, we were able to watch the live feed of the vote, and saw history in the making. When the final session started in the wee hours of Saturday morning, our group stood in a cramped office and prayed along with the Senate, while the pro-abortion advocates outside the gallery booed the same prayer. Minutes later, cheers rang out all around me, and tears of joy were shed, as the final vote count was announced and the bill officially passed. A victory for the unborn had been achieved, and I was glad I had been on the right side of history.
But history was not the only thing I had experienced in Austin. As I knelt in prayer in the rotunda, and was surrounded by hundreds of pro-abortion protesters angrily mocking my faith, I became convinced that I also experienced spiritual warfare. As a Christian, I felt secure that God would keep me safe, and I knew there were people all over the nation praying for our safety, but in my heart I knew fear.
I am so thankful for the Texas DPS who worked hard to ensure our safety, and to Representative Hughes for providing us a safe harbor in this storm. I am also grateful to the many people who donated food and supplies to the SFLA group, so that we could focus on supporting the bill, and saving babies!
Below I have compiled pictures and videos of the sights and sounds from this weekend. WARNING – some of the signs are very vulgar and may contain foul language. Unless otherwise noted, they are my personal photos and videos.
Recently, a man I will identify by the initials RDF shared on Facebook a heartbreaking story of loss. His girlfriend was pregnant with twins. She was almost twenty weeks along when she went to Planned Parenthood, considering abortion. I will let him tell the story in his own words:
She went into Planned Parenthood because she was “too young” (24) and wasn’t ready for children. She hadn’t “planned” to be a parent. I know… It’s ironic that a person who hadn’t planned to be a parent would visit “Planned Parenthood” to have her babies murdered inside her and then sucked out in little bits and pieces. That doesn’t sound anything at all like “planning” to me.
There were protesters there with posters and booklets and handouts… Offering insight, wisdom, help… An alternative to murder. She walked past the pictures of cut up babies. She ignored the small group of protesters. She was expressing her “legal rights”. She was expressing her “Womanly Rights”. She was a “modern woman”. Her life was about her. Not about the inconvenience of the “fertilized eggs” that were inside her.
They weren’t babies yet. She was less than 20 weeks pregnant… by a few days. Though the Sonogram showed two little babies. With fingers and hands… And feet and faces… And heartbeats… Two little innocent babies who were being protected by their mother in the safety of her womb. Two little babies who had never experienced hurt or pain, who never knew the evils of this world or the great wonders of this world. Who were completely 100% innocent. Alive… Waiting to be born.
The night before the abortion, we were talking about alternatives. I cried. She cried. She was a loose Christian. She believed in God in a spiritual sense but didn’t believe in the God of the Bible. I put my hand on her hand and then on her stomach and prayed and said, “Dear Lord, Please guide us through this dark and confusing hour. Please point us in the direction that only you know is right… Dear Lord…” And then we felt the strongest kick. And then another… And another. I cried. She cried. “The Lord is speaking to us. He answered our prayers.” She said, “But I’ve already made the appointment.” And I said, “That appointment means nothing, God has spoken to us.” I felt it. She said she felt it too. For the first time in her life… She felt God speaking to her.
Later that night, we were talking about the future and future plans. She said, “I’m not ready to be a mother.” I told her that nobody is. She said, “I’m scared.” I told her that every mother is scared. Although she wasn’t enrolled in college at the time, she wanted to go. I was enrolled in a Bachelor’s Program and was working toward my degree. She said, “But I want to finish college and do something with my life.” I told her that I would help with the baby and somehow we’d both finish college. “It might be harder. We may have to make some sacrifices but we’ll get through it.” She said that she was going to college and I could stay home and watch the baby. I was working for Lockheed Martin at the time and a condition of my employment was that I had to be enrolled in a Bachelor’s Program. So we disagreed on who was going to finish college first.
The fear and the anxiety and the uncertainty… Led to a small disagreement that ended with us going to bed not talking. She faced one way. I faced the other.
That morning I got up and was getting ready to go to work. I thought everything was going to be fine. We made it through the storm. She came downstairs and said, “I’m going through with it.” “What?” She said, “I’ve made up my mind. I’m going through with it.” She asked me to drive her to the clinic.
I tried to reason with her. She wasn’t having it. I refused to take her. She called a cab. I thought to myself, “If I let her get in that cab, she’ll surely go through with it.” So I agreed to take her to Planned Parenthood in hopes of talking her out of it. She wasn’t having any of that. I tried to talk. She was silent. Not a word. I drove. She stared out the window. She was stubborn. She was a “modern woman”, nobody was going to tell her what to do… Not me… Not God… Nobody.
So we got to Planned Parenthood and I pulled into the parking lot and parked as close as I could to the protesters. She was unfazed. I walked with her through the small group of protesters. I took a pamphlet and tried to give it to her. She was determined. I said, “Look those are fingers. That’s a head. They were alive. Our babies are alive.” She was walking briskly… She pretended she didn’t hear me. We got to the security gate of Planned Parenthood and rang the doorbell. A woman came out and unlocked the gate and then locked it behind us. We went into the lobby of the building. I grabbed my girlfriends hand, “Don’t do this.” She tried to pull her hand back and said, “I’m not ready to be a mother.” “Please, don’t do this. Reconsider” The lady who escorted us in told her the clinic was on the second floor. “Please, We can get through this. Don’t kill our babies.” She pulled her hand back, turned away from me and went up toward the clinic.
I was defeated. I left the clinic and got in my car and drove way too fast down the street. I ran a couple of red lights. I was so scared and angry and hurt and lost and all the emotions like a broken damn came flooding through me. I wanted to scream. I was helpless to protect my babies. I was completely unable to do a single thing to protect them. Where were my rights? Where were the rights of those two beautiful babies? What in the hell did rights have to do with murder? Nobody has the right to murder!!! All of these thoughts flooded my emotions like a freight train… with each box car a thought… And it was going 500 miles per hour through my head. And then…. like an explosion… A tragic horrific wreck… A screeching scraping explosion of thought…
Everything went high pitch… And then went silent….
The moment my children were murdered, a ripple, a shockwave went through my body. Though I wasn’t there… I felt it. I knew something terrible had just happened in that moment. She felt it too.
I turned around and drove as fast as I could back to that clinic. I parked my car in the middle of the road in front of the clinic, nearly on top of the protesters. I rang the doorbell by the gate. I rang it again… and again… Finally the same lady came out. She let me in… She said, “You can’t leave your car there, the police will have it towed.” “They can have it, please open the door, let me in.” She opened the door. I ran to the top of the stairs. Up to the clinic. I ran through the doors. I went up to the little window. I asked where my girlfriend was… “She’s in recovery.” My heart sank, “Can I see her?” “Let me check,” the nurse said. A few agonizingly long minutes later she returned and escorted me to the recovery room.
My girlfriend was crying. She said, “I was wrong. I felt them when they died. They pulled my heart out with our babies.” I cried. She cried. She said, “Oh God, what have I done? I feel horrible, empty… I feel barren… Like a dead flower” I cried. She cried. I stayed with her for a few minutes but needed some air. I went down and moved my illegally parked car. I parked away from the protesters in the parking lot. Then went back up. When they finally let her leave… We cried. We walked past the protesters. She could barely stand. She cried the whole way home. “Why didn’t I listen?” “What was I thinking?” And on and on and on… The emotional pain was unbearable.
RDF goes on to say that his girlfriend fell into a suicidal depression. She was soon going in and out of mental institutions. “It ruined her life,” he said.
When your rights… ruin your life… There is something wrong with the law.
It is a big deal. It is devastating to the mother. The little babies feel it. The mother feels it. The father feels it. It is murder.
Sometimes, pro-lifers unwittingly give strength to the stereotype that men push women into abortions to free themselves of responsibility. Campaigns like the “BroChoice” movement seem to indicate that many men have this attitude. Statistics from Dr. David C. Reardon’s group The Elliot Institute, which works with women who have had abortions, reveals that, in one study, 64% of women who aborted felt pressured by others (1). Sometimes, this pressure came from the father of the child.
But when pro-lifers focus on the men who want their partners to have abortions, they neglect the many man who desperately want their children. These men may beg and plead, may fight for their children’s lives – but in the end, they have no say.
Planned Parenthood, as well as other pro-abortion groups, have always fought very hard to prevent the father of the baby from having any influence, and they have been very successful. Women are not even required to tell the father. In fact, a law that would have required the husbands of married women to be told about their wives’ pending abortions was found unconstitutional by the Supreme Court in Planned Parenthood v. Casey. A father does not have the right even to know about his partner’s abortion, much less stop it.
Louise Taylor, who was the vice president of medical affairs at Planned Parenthood, summed up PP’s attitude towards the fathers of aborted babies:
But it doesn’t matter how much men scream and holler that they are being left out [of the abortion decision] There are some things that they are never going to be able to experience fully. I say, tough luck. (2)
1. VM Rue et. al., “Induced abortion and traumatic stress: A preliminary comparison of American and Russian women, Medical Science Monitor 10(10): SR5-16 (2004).
2. John Leo “Sharing the Pain of Abortion” Time Magazine, Sept 26, 1983 p 78
In response to the highly debated “not guilty” verdict of George Zimmerman, many civil rights activists have called for federal prosecution of Zimmerman on civil rights grounds. Groups like the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People (NAACP) are rallying efforts to reopen the case in pursuit of a guilty charge, convinced that Trayvon Martin’s death was the result of racial profiling, and that self-defense is implausible.
In its petition to the Department of Justice, which has garnered over 100,000 signatures, the NAACP states:
The Department of Justice has closely monitored the State of Florida’s prosecution of the case against George Zimmerman in the Trayvon Martin murder since it began. The most fundamental of civil rights — the right to life — was violated the night George Zimmerman stalked and then took the life of Trayvon Martin.
But does the NAACP consistently support the right to life? Although it staunchly and repeatedly states that it has no stance on abortion, well-documented actions by the NAACP betray this assertion as false. Ryan Bomberger, founder of the Radiance Foundation, chronicles the NAACP’s support of abortion. Among others, his findings include:
- NAACP Chairman Julian Bond serving in 2004 as the keynote speaker for one of the premier abortion-advocate organizations in America: NARAL. Also in 2004, Bond keynoted the abortion lobby’s version of the March for Life: the “March for Women’s Lives.”
- Under pressure from the national NAACP, a pro-life Georgia chapter of the organization is forced to rescind support for a GA bill that would ban abortion based on race.
- In 2011, the NAACP defended Planned Parenthood when Live Action exposed its cover-up of sex trafficking.
Below is a comprehensive list of right-to-life violations of the NAACP:
Can the NAACP decry an alleged legal violation of the right to life while simultaneously defending abortion? There’s a term for that: “Talking out of both sides of the mouth.” However, as individuals and organizations like the Radiance Foundation (who received a lawsuit threat from the NAACP for calling the organization out on its abortion support) have experienced, the NAACP doesn’t take kindly to being called out on its inconsistencies.
You’ve seen them all over social networking sites: “Help support Sarah’s mission’s trip” or “Buy John’s family a new van.” Usually there is a link to GoFundMe or some site like that. The right need with the right connections might get thousands of dollars donated. However, now the fundraising need has come down to abortion – an abortion that costs $9,500.
This weekend, pro-choicers in Virginia were partnering with the DC Abortion Fund (DCAF) to help “Erica” pay for her abortion – to the tune of $9,500 total, reminding us in light of the outcry against the recent Texas abortion ban and other national restrictions that abortion is, ironically, alive and well all over the nation.
Apparently Erica had a car accident on her way to her abortion appointment in June, so now the price had gone up another $3,000 to the total of $9,500. There was a social media influx Sunday to raise money to help her.
The DCAF is known for its willingness to help women fund their abortions, even in later-term situations, even giving a preference to funding women coming to the D.C. area for a second-trimester abortion. In this case, a Twitter campaign was unleashed to help Erica obtain her abortion:
In June, we pledged to support Erica. Our skilled team of volunteer case managers made sure she had the money she needed. She was all set to get her procedure – but we can’t always plan for the unthinkable. On the way to her appointment, Erica’s car was hit by another motorist. The car was totaled, and although Erica was lucky to be able to walk away, she had to miss her appointment that day.
Now she has another appointment. But due to the delay – one that couldn’t be helped, due to a car accident and lack of transportation – she faces a price of $9,500.
As Amanda Williams, who tweets under @fullfrontalfem, posted on Sunday, “She has no #choice w/o access.” It seems that abortion access must now include giving money to be sure people can have what is surely not a first-trimester abortion at that price.
In 2009, the median charge for a surgical abortion at 10 weeks’ gestation was $470; but since most U.S. women obtain abortions at facilities with lower charges, the average amount paid was $451. The median cost for a medication abortion was $490 and women paid an average of $483.
Planned Parenthood reports that a first-trimester abortion can range from $300 to $950. Ten times the top price Planned Parenthood quotes most likely is the result of some form of a later-term abortion, which is still legal in many places in the United States. Regardless of what abortion proponents in Texas would have people think, abortion is readily available in many states up to varying levels of fetal development.
The DCAF and its supporters are lined up to give thousands of dollars to women so that babies can be killed as late in term as need be for the situation. Last year DCAF posted this need for “Malia” to obtain $3,750 more to abort her baby with a fetal abnormality, instead of allowing him or her to be born and seeing if the baby could be treated, or even die of natural causes. Instead, fundraisers went to work to help pay for a procedure that was $14,500. This is what their organization exists to do: fund legal death as long as the baby hasn’t been born yet.
As for Erica, she got her money. In less than 12 hours people gave the money she needed to be able to go through with her $9,500 abortion.
And this, say abortion fund supporters, is the true right for women – access means we allow it, legislate it, and fund it with taxpayer dollars. And when those are not available, donate money to help it happen.
My heart exploded with joy as Atlanta minister Corey Lee told me of his plans to take a team of 30 minority college students across the country to pray at historically black universities and churches. Corey and his wife Jade are the kind of people who take risks, walk by faith, and sacrifice themselves for the sake of others.
They run a discipleship school called “The Well” and a ministry called “Freedom Atlanta” which helps spiritually equip students at the HBCUs in Atlanta. I became dear friends with the Lees while living in Georgia as a prayer missionary for the city of Atlanta. During that time I’d join Corey, Jade, and their team of students to pray for the ending of abortion and revival in the hearts of students at Morehouse, Spellman, and Clark Atlanta.
The Lees unashamedly tell college students that abortion is the #1 killer of black Americans. From prayer meetings to acts of compassion towards moms, they do everything they can to love the unborn and their parents.
Their “Freedom’s Cry” website for the HBCU prayer tour states this: “Abortion is the hidden enemy of the African Americans. It is the #1 reason for death in the black community, trumping diseases such as HIV/AIDs and Diabetes. Due to abortion, the death rate is higher than the birth rate in our people group. Black women make up the largest numbers of abortions in the nation even though we are only 14% of the population. Black women also make up the highest level of ‘unintended pregnancies’.”
Corey, Jade, and their team of students have taken this message to the road. They departed from Atlanta on the first week of July to head to the major cities of Birmingham, AL; Montgomery, AL; Hampton Roads, VA; Richmond, VA; Washington, D.C.; Charlotte, NC; New Orleans, LA; Orlando, FL; Miami, FL; Dallas, TX; and Los Angeles, CA. They are visiting 65 historically black colleges and universities. Their tour website gives 5 prayer points they will cover at every stop:
1. Pray for HBCUs
2. Pray for the Ending of Abortion
3. Pray for Sanctity of Marriage
4. Pray for a Prayer & Missions Movement in the Black Community
5. Call the Black Community into Missions
The students have a blog called “Freedoms Cry: The Cry for Spiritual Awakening and Change,” where they post daily updates from their journeys on the road. Their blog also has a “learn” section, where readers can discover research on abortion in the black community, the Civil Rights Movement, and the “prophetic calling” of the African-American community. In the creative expression section of their blog, you can find videos of young black American’s dancing and sharing poetry, and of a student expressing why she is pro-life. I find their blog updates from the road particularly fascinating.
A entry posted on July 12 titled “Southern University at New Orleans & The Black LIFE Tape Movement” tells of their first prayer meeting with “Black Life Tape” at Southern University. “Life Tape” comes from the Bound4Life movement, a prayer ministry dedicated to ending abortion and praying for righteous government. Bound4Lifers pray in front of courthouses, capitols, and abortion clinics wearing red tape with black letters spelling out LIFE. The Lees adopted this tape and put a new twist on it. Their team donned black tape with white letters on it as a symbolic gesture to stand against abortion in the black community.
Their update reports:
We wear black life tape on behalf of the black babies that never receive the opportunity to have their first cry. We pray on their behalf in anticipation of the ending of abortion in our nation. We prayed and marched out of Southern University wearing black life tape after singing, “The Blood of Jesus” and “We shall Overcome”.
The pictures of their outdoor prayer meeting filled me with hope. I believe that God can use these warriors to break the chains of death and bring a culture of life back to America.
This prayer journey is historic, and its impact on our country will be immeasurable. Who knows what will happen when the prayers of these students begin to be answered? I hope this movement will awaken others in the black community to the reality of abortion. How can we fight for civil rights without remembering the rights of the unborn? The right to life begins in the womb!