Recently, I received a few tweets from a detractor who describes herself as a feminist, doula-in-training, and student midwife. I’ll call her Heather out of respect for her privacy, which she really doesn’t deserve since she stated these things publicly on the Internet, but contrary to popular belief, I’m nice.
Anyway, in response to one of my blogs, she tweeted the following:
Hate speech masked as debate is never welcome. Debate, in earnest, is always welcome.
A quick note to aid you in your pro-life debates: this “hate” thing is an annoying non-argument I encounter a lot in our era of political correctness. It’s one of those words intended to shut down debate. Some people are so afraid of not being PC, all you have to do is call their opinion “hate,” and they feel guilted into shutting up. Of course, some people really are hateful, but more than likely if someone calls your opinion “hate,” it’s because they disagree with you and want to shut you up. Don’t let them.
Before I could answer her tweet, she immediately added:
Every 6 minutes a woman dies of an illegal, unsafe abortion.
I tweeted back:
Calling speech you disagree with “hate speech” is a way of discounting it just because you think it’s “mean.”
And then I said:
Every minute 87.5 babies die of a legal, “safe” abortion. #dothemath
See, this back-and-forth is what some might call debate, which Heather had just finished saying was “always welcome.” Her reply a day later said otherwise.
We don’t have to debate because we’ve already won.
Wait a second. Didn’t you just say earnest debate was always welcome?
Her tweet included a link to a pro-abortion blog, and a short entry which included the following:
This deal is closed, people, and we won. For us, debate is a waste of our time. In the real world, the world in which abortion is legal and considered a human right, our time is better spent ensuring access is available to all women… We need to make sure our providers are safe from the crazy zealots who wish they were dead… We need to concentrate on what’s ahead, not on what’s behind.
Jennie Stone recently published a blog here on Live Action about pro-aborts refusing to debate. It seems to be going around, and this blog gives us a little glimpse into their way of thinking.
Their viewpoint is, for one thing, based on a false premise. They did not win a public debate. They won a court case. The people of the United States did not vote and decide abortion should be legal. They were told it was legal one day by a Supreme Court which suddenly discovered a right to abortion in the Constitution that no one had ever seen before.
How loudly do you think they would scream if our roles were reversed? How loud do you think the screaming was in 1972 if someone refused to debate whether abortion should be legal? After all, we had “won” at that point. But because this is America, we still let them argue their point. That’s how the whole democracy thing works.
Here’s what I think: I think they’re scared of debate because the facts are on our side. We own them from every angle: science, ethics, morality, human rights, you name it.
When I was vehemently pro-choice, I would have been kicked to the curb in an abortion debate. I knew nothing but talking points and catch phrases. “It’s my body! It’s a personal choice! It’s a clump of cells! The fetus is not a person!” I had no idea what I was talking about. I was just repeating what I’d heard.
The very moment I understood what a fetus was, that a human embryo is a separate human life from the moment of conception, and the truth about what abortion does to a living human being, I became pro-life. I was a liberal, agnostic feminist, and I did not want to be pro-life. I hated being pro-life. I had been told it was the ideology of crazy, judgmental religious zealots (see the pro-abort quote, above), and I dreaded telling my friends. I was afraid I would lose some of them, and I did.
But because I was honestly committed to human rights and opposed to the commission of violence against innocents, the exact second I recognized the fetus as a human, I could no longer be anything but pro-life. The more I learned, the more I knew I could never go back. And I haven’t.
It wasn’t until later that I understood how much suffering abortion causes for women. I had always been one of those “I could never have an abortion but I support a woman’s choice” people. I would have told you — loudly — that all women have a right to an abortion, but if a woman told me she was going to have one, I would have been mystified. I could not understand it. Even in my worst, most desperate situations — and I’ve had a few — nothing on earth could have ever caused me to abort my child. You see, deep down, somewhere instinctual I could not have explained, I knew it was a child. Somewhere deep down, I still believe every woman knows. The more I learned about what abortion does to women, the more I understood that pro-life is not just pro-child, it’s pro-mother.
Because of my own experience, I hold out hope for most abortion supporters. It’s hard for me to imagine that anyone can understand abortion — really understand it — and still support it.
“We need to concentrate on what’s ahead, not what’s behind,” says the pro-abortion blog. Well, guess what’s ahead? Debate. Thanks to organizations like Live Action, the world’s largest abortion provider, Planned Parenthood, is not doing too well these days. I bet they’re even being forced to debate. When Congress is asking you questions, you sort of have to answer.
Here’s a friendly tip for pro-aborts reading this: encouraging each other to avoid debate is probably not very smart. You’re all going to need the practice, because whether you like it or not, this fight isn’t over. And unfortunately for you, truth, justice, and righteousness are on our side.