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Website asks women to be proud of their abortions

Since xoJane.com prides itself on being the website “where women go when they are being selfish, and where their selfishness is applauded,” it’s no surprise they are asking women to brag about their experience with abortion. The site is asking women to submit photos of themselves declaring why they support the act of killing one’s own child. They want women to end their silence and proclaim to the world that they’ve had abortions and feel zero guilt about it.

In the post, “It Happened to Us: Abortion,” author S.E. Smith writes:

For a medical procedure that should be routine, like getting a filling at the dentist or getting a vaccination, it sure is politically charged. I wear my abortion on my sleeve (so to speak) because I want other people to know that they don’t need to feel shame about choosing to get an abortion[.]

First, abortion isn’t something that “happens” to anyone. It is not an arbitrary, unexpected event beyond a woman’s control, but an act of aggression, which she sought out. Second, it is not and should not be routine to rip your own child out of your womb. Unlike vaccinations and dental fillings, abortion ends the life of a baby and can leave mothers with a lifetime of remorse and bouts of depression.

Smith also says:

There’s a tendency in some corners of the pro-choice movement to talk about abortion as a tragic but sometimes necessary procedure, to talk about the need to reduce the overall number of abortions, and this is a mistake. It plays into the hands of the anti-choice movement by assigning a moral value to abortion.

There’s a reason so many people who affiliate themselves with the pro-choice side call abortion tragic but necessary. There’s a reason so many of them say that no one wants to have an abortion, but sometimes it’s the right thing to do. It’s because they know that abortion is tragic and wrong, but they have become so snarled up in politically correct lingo that they can’t see straight anymore. They know that abortion is a gravely horrific act of murder, but they cannot get themselves out from under the weight of their own misguided attempts to help women. The fact is that murdering someone is legally wrong because it is morally wrong. Since abortion is murder, the same rules should apply. To help someone commit a murder is also morally and legally wrong. And the pro-choicers who assign a moral value to abortion know this, but they live in denial, preferring to ignore their own consciences.

Smith tells all of her readers:

If you had an abortion, you can rock on with your bad self, whether you braved the dangers of illegal abortion pre-Roe v. Wade or took some mifepristone this morning. And if anyone has a problem with that, that’s their problem, not yours.

She believes that women who have had abortions should celebrate themselves and that those women who risked their health to kill their own children in pre-Roe days (and really, in these days, too) should honor their twisted principles. When did women who would risk death in order to kill their child become more admirable than those who risk their lives to save their children? Imagine slave owners who may have told those fighting for freedom for slaves: “If you don’t like that I own slaves, that’s your problem, not mine.” Or picture an abusive man telling his wife’s family: “If you don’t like my relationship, that’s your problem.” Envision terrorists telling us that if we don’t like their actions, that’s our problem. Abortion is about a woman and her doctor the way child abuse is about a parent and her child. To imply that none of us has a right to protect victims of violence is unacceptable.

Interwoven in Smith’s post are photos of women supporting abortion.

Lesley Kinzel holds up a note with drawings of three cats. It reads, “If I was pregnant TODAY, I would get an abortion. (Cats are enough, thank you.) (Less crying) (Self reliance) (Smaller poops).” It seems that for Kinzel, having to love a child is a horrid task.

When Sari Botton proclaims in her photo, “Had 1 surgical + 1 chemical. Been perpetuating the shame by keeping silent…until now. 1+1=2 abortions,” all I picture (graphic link) is a baby burned to death by saline and another being ripped to pieces. Never given a name, never given a hug, never allowed to feel love from another person.

It is all obviously and pathetically egocentric. And it all plays into the master plot of Planned Parenthood and the Population Council to shift society’s view of children from blessing to curse, to alter the perception of family to be a unit that includes only one or two children, and to convince everyone that there is no one more important than I am.

Helena Andrews’ photo stating, “I Choose Life. Mine,” says it all.

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  • Shelly200

    Anyone who says abortion isn’t a selfish choice is blinded by their own politics. When 99% of abortions are due to convenience, we know our country has a problem. Since when did being selfish become something to be admired in this society?

    • notimportant

      Much of it is due to what constitutes being successful, by society standards. Being a good parent or simply raising a good family is no longer looked at as an achievement, compared to having a career or raising to the top of ones field. Those with successful careers are always looked at as admirable people in society, not women who choose to have their babies and become good mothers. I don’t see it so much as “selfishness”, so much as the value society places on motherhood- which is nil to none. Nobody wants to be viewed by others in society as a “loser” or “going nowhere” or “doing nothing” with their lives.

      • notimportant

        Sorry, I meant “rising to the top…”

        • Faithkuz

          I agree with you–there is a mommy stigma.  You here it in the the comments–It is sexism toward motherhood–what is that called? 

  • SuperLogic

    Wow, twisted thinking and morals!

  • MirandaElizabeth

    This is just sick! Killing your own child or helping others to kill theirs is nothing to be proud of. It is 100% possible to be a good mother AND have a career.

  • Tyler Silver

    How could someone be proud of killing another individual especially a baby?

  • ProudtobeProLife

    I had a friend who was pregnant and I told her that I would take the  child (we are both 19) and raise it, because I wanted to make sure that it was raised in a loving home. She found out that the baby would have problems and aborted it. She took this child away from me. Abortion isn’t something to celebrate. Not only are you killing someone you are taking a child away from someone who wants to love it. Please think twice. 

  • guest

    I looked at the website….very disturbing….but I noticed something about the women who commented….most have never had an abortion….the commentors there say they “would” have an abortion.  The interesting thing is that the most women screaming the loudest for abortion seem to be the ones that never had one. The ones I’ve met in post-abortion counseling all share one some things in common…shame and guilt…b/c abortion is shameful and in a woman’s heart of hearts, when she gets past her denial, dealing with a dead child is heartbreaking

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  • http://profile.yahoo.com/ZF4MB6Z42KRYUNKGHS5D2UQZAA K

    i, personally, no matter what the situation, whether i was a teenager (which i am) who didnt wait for marriage and got pregnant, or i got raped and became pregnant even if my child was supposedly ‘defective’ in some way i would NEVER kill my own child! that is appauling! who could do that to a beautiful and pure baby? i dont understand women now days and i am one! doesnt matter if someone became pregnant on willing circumanstances or not they should raise that child. is the risk and danger to your body more important than LOVE and COMPASSION that child could have? is it?

  • Frankblennau

    I believe that families that name their children before birth present an unmistakable sign to all that they know. That their fetus is a real live person. Possibly we could change the baby shower to a naming ceremony, or incorporate the two into one. It would be a public sign that the parents and the extended family really believe the fetus to be a real live person. What do you think?

  • Carla

    I want to know why would ANYONE and I mean ANYONE  even think to be proud of having n abortion. (Killing that innocent baby is murdering that baby.). I say this because I was one of those selfish women who listened to all the adult people in my life because they thought it was the right thing to do for me.  At the time of my abortion I could have cared less about society standards, or being a good parent. Those out there that are still for abortions even after knowing the other side of being silent no more are the ones who need help. They need a savior who will show them a different way. His way and His way only. People wake up if you are for abortion it fucking hurts in more ways than one. and if you receive no healing of any kind it will hurt for a very long time. So continue to be selfish in your ways and know that someday it will backfire in your face and when it does it will hurt even more.

  • Aradia Cloud

    MY thing is that if you’re not woman enough to take on the responsibility of raising a child, then you’re not woman enough to be banging in the first place. When you throw away a child because it was in inconvenience, please be aware that you’re throwing away an innocent life that was depending on you for survival. Realize that it was not the baby’s choice to be here. It was all you and Mr. Sperm Donor.
    If you have health complications and a baby is dangerous to your life, then sure; it can’t be helped. Friggin pisses me off. Women out there would give their right arm to have a baby, and instead of giving it up for adoption to one of them, you’d rather kill it for your own selfish reasons.
    Ignorant arses running around here murdering babies and being proud… God damn.; is this what the world has come to?

  • Edie414

    I had an abortion two years ago and to this day i know in my heart and soul it was the best and right decision. Nothing and no one will change my mind.

    • Nadia

      Are you in your forties yet? It’s funny how things you’re so sure of at the moment and when you’re younger suddenly look different or questionable once you hit the big four-o, and you take that time to look back over your life. At 40, you begin to realize all the things that could have been, that will now never be- from every aspect- career, life, family. It’s amazing how that moment of looking back has such an impact for the remainder of your life. Good luck to you, especially when that moment comes.

  • Edie414

    I had an abortion and I’m definitely proud of it!

    • http://twitter.com/CalFreiburger Calvin Freiburger

      You’re proud that you created somebody then killed him or her?

      • kimisclassy

         Nice one. I’d like to comment, but I honestly can’t get past my disgust.

  • Edie414

    I had an abortion and I’m proud!

  • The Secret’s Lie

    Unless the child was a child of rape there is NO exuse for abortion.  I’m sick of hearing about stupid teenagers who made a mistake aborting their children because they are too selfish to take responisbilty for what they did.

    • grdawg

      Even if rape is involved, that shouldn’t take away a child’s right to life.  It’s an absolutely HORRIBLE situation, and more needs to be done to prosecute rapists.  But, a child should not be punished or put to death for what her father did.  She is not the monster, and why should she die when her father won’t even be put to death?  I think this girl makes a pretty good argument against abortion in the case of rape:  http://liveactionnews.org/opinion/ana-benderas-why-children-of-rape-victims-should-not-be-aborted/.  This lady has a good perspective and lots of stories, too:  http://www.rebeccakiessling.com/index.html.  

      Also, I think a lot of teenagers are open to keeping their baby or giving them up for adoption if we would take the time to listen and talk to them.  These people do good work with teens:  http://www.standupgirl.com/index.php and http://www.tmcint.org/.  If we provide resources, I think teens will take us up on the offer.  And we can save more lives and help them, too!